Mountain-CanadaCertainly, the end of life worries us. We worry what the end will be like for our caree and for ourselves.

But, before that end, we encounter other ends that create just as much internal chaos. Some days, we wonder if we’ve reached our end, as in the end of our rope. The worry about our end when we’re stretched too thin and then required to do more than that. The worry about our end when we feel we’ve reached our capacity on what we can understand and then we’re challenged to comprehend even more.The worry about our end when we feel we’ve adjusted the best we can and then we’re tasked with yet another change.

During those days when we’re asked to give and do even more, we can feel we’re at our end. We’re at our capacity. We have nothing left, not even one last drop in our reserve. We want to cry because we can’t believe we’re facing more yet again, but we can’t even muster the energy for tears.

At our end, how can we continue?

You can continue because it’s simply not your end. You are too wise and tenacious and important to be at your end. You’ll regroup, get help, research options, educate yourself. You’ll plug along, step by step. And, when all those steps lead you through the latest challenge, you’ll look back and think, “I see now that this last test actually led me to a better place.”

Know you’re not at your end. You’ve reached a new beginning. That’s why it feels so stressful and awful and uncomfortable. You’re reaching for that next mountain top because that’s the next you’re ready for. With each new top you reach, you see more of what life can be for you.

When it feels like you’re at your end, know you’re climbing into a new beginning. You’ll be amazed at where you’ll land.

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched CareGiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

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  1. Avatar of PegiPegi

    I love this Denise. It’s so true. It seems to grow easier to climb the next mountain once you’ve made it over the first couple. It almost becomes a habit. The option of feeling near tears gets less and less. We research, regroup and get on with it. When I look at myself last year, when I first found this site out of shear desperation; I can’t help but feel a little proud. So much is do to all the support and advice I’ve gotten in this community. But I do know now I am stronger, more capable and even more prepared for the next mountain than I ever thought possible.


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