Engage

diamondringDifficult days can seem to bring about a boat load of dysfunction.

Family members over-react and second-guess. Health care professionals won’t listen and jump to conclusions. Friends make assumptions based on their experiences, rather than on your day.

And then you’ll encounter a few who create a drama better than anything you could see on Broadway. They must be must be right at all costs, which means they try to make us wrong. They throw temper tantrums, toss accusations, manipulate with lies. They try to push our buttons in order to engage us in a battle. And, if they do, they win.

When those who love us want to engage us, we can enthusiastically say, “Yes!” When those who can’t love themselves want to engage us, we can simply walk away. We can’t be engaged. It’s how we keep the shine on our diamond.

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched CareGiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

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