But, tonight, at 12:30 a.m., you think: This starting over every day is just killing me.
We often talk about the constant of caregiving—change. With change, comes its sister: Starting Over. Every day, you may feel like you’re starting over. You start over with different services as your caree’s health declines, as help burns-out and disappears, as your caree’s abilities lessen, as your patience wears thin, as funding for the programs you use dries up. Just when you feel like you’ve made progress, a change causes you to start over. It’s like yesterday’s accomplishments and successes were simply a dream.
So, how can you stay positive when starting over drains you faster than a family member’s insensitivity? We’ve got 10 suggestions:
1. Start your day with a routine that refreshes. Some family caregivers start the day with time for reflection. Others begin their day by taking a few moments to journal. Others say a prayer or meditation or devotion. Create a ritual that’s just right for you, that helps you find and keep your perspective.
2. Live in the present. Fretting about the past and worrying about the future takes you out of what you can control: Today. Take one day at at time, focusing on today’s needs, planting seeds for tomorrow’s.
3. Express frustrations to a comforting support system. Caregiving can be so lonely, but it’s awful when you feel you must go it alone. Vent to a comforting support system that neither judges or “should’s” you. Let it out so you let it go.
4. Really and truly embrace forgiveness. Our weekly care plans encourage you to look at forgiveness as an important part of your wellness. A good beginning happens because of a good ending. Forgiveness helps create those good endings.
5. Take a daily temperature of your situation by asking these two questions: Do I have what I need? Does my caree have what he or she needs? Then, take action.
6. End the day by listing three gratitudes. Count your blessings because that’s how your blessings count. And, when you keep track, you keep building the blessings.
7. Practice your faith, whatever your faith may be. Faith in a Higher Power who has called you to a Greater Good adds meaning to an experience that spurs more questions than answers.
8. Enjoy the humor in the day. It’s funny. When it is, laugh. When you laugh, you show appreciation for an incredible gift we’re given: A sense of humor. Exercise it.
9. Keep in mind: This too shall pass. Oh, boy, it can seem like loss and darkness has settled in your home permanently. They may overstay their welcome, but they will be replaced by growth and light. They will.
10. Believe in yourself. It keeps everyone else believing. And, on those days when you just can’t believe all that’s happened or believe in your ability to manage it, know we believe in you. And, we don’t ever stop.
(Reprinted from The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey.)
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