Platitudes on Gratitudes

You can't burn store-bought cookies.

You can’t burn store-bought cookies.

10 Reasons to Be Grateful for Your Caregiving Role

1. A built-in excuse to cut back on time spent with certain family members over the holidays. What a great way to cut down of these distasteful side dishes of judgments and opinions. Who needs those calories!

2. You’re crabby? Someone even ventures to question your crabbiness? Give them the throwdown: “It’s the caregiving.” And, it’s not even a lie!

3. A guilt-free way out of helping at the church bazaar or the school holiday festival. “You know, what with caregiving, I’m booked.”

4. A reason to throw a pity party, complete with ice cream and more ice cream, for yourself, any time, any day.

5. You never have to explain that trip to your car, the trip that begins and ends in the driveway. You don’t go anywhere, you just go to the car. To hide. And, everyone knows why. It’s the caregiving. And, on those days you can’t even get out to car, you go to bathroom, with your pillow. They still know why.

6. No explanation needed for those bad hair days. Or for the grey hair. Or for no hair. It’s the caregiving.

7. Acceptance from family members of burnt food, especially cookies and casseroles.

8. Pajamas and slippers all day, every weekend.

9. You’re a whiz with a wheelchair. A whiz with one hand. You receive admiring glances at the doctor’s office, at worship services, at the grocery store. It’s all in the wrist.

10. Finally, be grateful for your caregiving role because it shows you your priorities, highlights the love you have for others as well as the love you receive from others, and puts the true meaning of relationships and life in the forefront of your day, every day. Caregiving may seem to tear you apart, but after you put yourself back together, you’ll be amazed at what’s created. You, times 10.

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Happy Thanksgiving!

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

2 thoughts on “Platitudes on Gratitudes

  1. Avatar of PegiPegi

    Love this blog, Denise! Think I’ve used/done every one of your ten reasons. Am especially found of 1 and 4. Good to remember the “up” side of caregiving.

  2. Gail Kroll

    Great ideas which are so hard for me to do for respite. But since family is coming this holiday? I might try.


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