Things have been going very well here since Steve moved to a lower dose of one of his medications. He has been reading, his spirits are better, he seems to be remembering things, he’s napping less and he planned ahead and purchased a Christmas card and gifts. In the past when this has happened, I have wondered, Is he better? Has it really been something other than MCI all along?
Yeah, I know, wondering if he’s “better” as in “all better” is pretty crazy, but when I would see improvements during the first few years I did think that. Of course, each time, reality would provide a cold splash of water to awaken me to the truth of the situation.
This time, I haven’t even been cautiously optimistic that there is a permanent change, but I haven’t been waiting for the other shoe to drop either. Instead I’ve been thinking that we’ll just enjoy this as long as it lasts. It is hard, though, not to relax and be a little less aware of the realities of life with a spouse with MCI.
A few weeks ago, we were discussing what Steve was going to do with his time while he was off of school. He really can’t plan his time to begin and end a project or make sure he has something to do each day. When he doesn’t, it ends up that he might watch things on the computer, nap, and well, not much else all day, so I said he needed to do something on a regular basis. Steve asked the logical question, “What do you want me to do?”
Steve spent a few hours reading a book while I baked. In the back of my mind, I was thinking about what Steve could do with his time off. I realized that I wanted just a little structure for Steve. In addition to eating three meals, taking his meds, showering and getting dressed, I wanted him to go for a walk and do one thing each day. He could go to the movie at the Senior Center, read, work in the yard, spend time at the library, walk around Home Depot or visit the nature center, for example.
I told Steve I had been thinking about his question from earlier and I had some ideas for him. Steve’s response, “What question?” GOTCHA!