I had been scared to be alone with Mom due to something awful like the three days when I had been alone with her before and on Christmas and it was so bad and I couldn’t handle it. But Hospice called. Our Team nurse came and the social worker came today. It was actually too busy. I could barely handle the crunch of it all.
Hospice is good. But a little overwhelming for Mom and me. Too many people but the help could be good. I just need to take it in stride a little more. Maybe when it gets to be a routine it’ll be easier.
I asked the social worker for some reading material for coping with siblings dealing with Mom’s death. That’ll help. She said she would – not as of yet – e-mail me a reading list.
I think my older sister arrives this weekend but she never sent me her itinerary so Mom and I aren’t sure. I also phoned my younger sister to phone me back today at about four pm but she never did and my questions loom over head. Her husband said he would tell her to do so since she was out of the house.
Mom has a terrible cold. I think I will ask our CNA to come with me when I take her to my appointment with our PCP this Friday to get a check up about that. Mom needs that appointment more than I do. She’s been sneezing and coughing.
It’ll be so good to see our CNA tomorrow! We adore her! She has become like a dear friend! She loves THE PRICE IS RIGHT and JEOPARDY on TV like we do and we all have dinner and chat during the shows when they are on. She even now feels comfortable enough to make lunch with us and eat and she always asks me what I want too. She is our angel.
She is no longer someone to come here at home to bother us but to come visit like a friend! Hospice is still a bother. The nurse? A good bother though. The social worker? Undetermined as of yet.
Tomorrow is New Year’s Day! Today New Year’s Eve! Today my Dad would have been 89 years old. He died at the age of 58. He had early onset Alzheimer’s and a stroke. It was difficult for Mom and me without him. Very. But life went on and Mom and I are okay. We are living like it is okay. And it is.
Today I helped Mom write to all her friends and the family. I typed up a short note she wrote to them all about what had been happening while she had not talked to them all for some four months. She signed them in the appropriate manner. I stamped envelopes and addressed them and put on the return address labels she chose.
Some closure there. That’s what we need. Some closure. Or more likely? That’s what others need regarding Mom’s life. Closure.
- An RN from Hospice Comes Today (caregiving.com)
- Mom Agreed to Consider Hospice (caregiving.com)
- I Think the Time for Hospice May Be Soon (caregiving.com)
- My End-of-the-Year Report (caregiving.com)
- Is This Heaven Sent? I Sure Hope So! (caregiving.com)
- Hospital Stay or Hotel California? (caregiving.com)
- Music Is The Best Medicine! (caregiving.com)
- Worrying That, in the End, You’ll be Cheated (caregiving.com)
- The Memories You Save (caregiving.com)
- Dementia, Drumsticks and Dressing (caregiving.com)