steam_trainSome days, you have too much steam. So much, it seems, that it comes out of your ears. On those days, it’s the home health aide who shows up late, the medications which never show up, and the phone call from the doctor which doesn’t come that just make too much steam. You’re just so mad at all that goes wrong.

And, then you have days when you don’t have enough steam. Your get-up-and-go got up and went. You just can’t get the energy to go, to do. You can’t make the steam your train needs to go.

When you have too much steam, use it to your advantage: Take a walk, run the stairs, clean the house. Then resolve the situation that got you steamed. The activity will keep your head clear so you can be effective during the resolution.

When you don’t have enough steam, borrow some. Ask for help with errands, order in a pizza for dinner, take a nap, simply stop and sit. When you respect that you need a slower day, you’ll be able to meet tomorrow with more energy.

With your ability to adjust, too much or too little can feel like just enough.

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

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  1. Avatar of Gail KrollGail Kroll

    Steam in this virtual sense can be so progressive or lethal. I remember getting so angry about a missed medication for my Mom at the Rehab Center that I was livid at someone. The nurse practitioner said “Let it go, Gail.” From that? Comes “Pray for Patience.” In another sense? This blog Denise writes today talks about how I called the Agency today and asked our new CNA to stay until 3pm not to leave at 2pm on Thursday so my allergy doctor’s appointment won’t be rushed in the prospective snow storm. (Also our visiting PT comes at 2-3pm that day.) I feel the idea of creativity comes from this blog. We must be creative in our thinking outside of the box in caregiving or else we’ll burn out. I have so many times. The steam comes out of my ears until I just want to cry or yell out and SCREAM!!!!! Thanks Denise for showing me that I need to be a little more creative in my outlook!


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