Tell Us: Has Caregiving Cost You Your Job?

fired-mdOn Saturday’s episode of Your Caregiving Journey, Bob shared his caregiving story, which includes losing a job because of his caregiving responsibilities for his wife.

On Friday, during our video chat, Patti Shea, who cares for her parents, shared the story of a friend terrified to disclose her caregiving responsibilities to her employer for fear of being fired.

Trying to keep a job and keep caregiving affects your today and your tomorrows. Americans who provide care for their aging parents lose an estimated three trillion dollars in wages, pension and Social Security benefits when they take time off to do so, according to “The MetLife Study of Caregiving Costs to Working Caregivers: Double Jeopardy for Baby Boomers Caring for Their Parents.” You are needed today and yet you need to prepare for your own future. It’s a tough spot to be in–because you’re trying to be in two spots at the same time.

So, I’d love to know: Has caregiving cost you your job? Please vote in our poll, below, and share your experiences in our comments section.


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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

3 thoughts on “Tell Us: Has Caregiving Cost You Your Job?

  1. Avatar of CasandraCasandra

    I didn’t get fired but I came close many times. I had to be very diligent in keeping up with policies, time off requests, and other issues. Eventually, and sadly, shortly after getting everything straightened out with my attendance and being in the clear for not having any blemishes on my record because of the absences, we made the decision to move his care and I had to quit my job. It was definitely an upsetting time for me. I wasn’t so in love with the job I felt like finding another one would ruin me… LOL But, I did like the job, a lot, and loved that I was finally able to learn to navigate my options within the company. Now, I can’t even look for a part-time job because my job is 24/7 with Marc’s care. The help I thought I would have is non-existent again. Not an entirely dire situation but definitely makes things harder.

  2. Avatar of LisaDLisaD

    The last job I had was a year ago, it was supposed to be a part-time job but it quickly turned into a full-time job. I decided to quit because it was interfering with me helping my family.

  3. Erin Hayes

    Although I haven’t lost my job due to caregiver, I, too, have come close. As a caregiver for my husband, who has a spinal cord injury, I have to be flexible enough to leave work at a moment’s notice. I’m the one who stays home with our daughter when she’s sick or my husband when he’s sick. And God forbid I get sick. I changed jobs since I wasn’t moving up in my previous company and although it wasn’t said, I knew it was because of the flexibility that I needed with my position. Because of that flexibility, my boss didn’t think I could handle a higher position even though I BEGGED for challenging work.

    I have a new job and although told that everything was flexible, it’s not. I am to be here and not at home working. I was told this after missing 3 days of work due to my husband being in the ICU. Employers do not understand the pressure put on employees when they are told to always be at work. The constant worry when my child says “I don’t feel well” like she did this morning is enough to shut me off for the entire day and completely affects my work. I could get so much more completed if I were home and she were resting. But since our society frowns upon that, I’m at work and she’s at school not feeling well and I feel like a terrible parent.


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