Sometimes it’s obvious when Steve’s done too much. Last week, Steve attended a meeting at his former employer’s. After the meeting he visited with people for a couple of hours. He told me he knew he was having a problem so he stopped and had lunch, but he was having fun visiting, so he continued to see friends for another hour or more. He came home and took a nap, and the next day was low on both physical and mental energy.
On Friday, Steve spent the day with his dad. They worked on the sprinklers and had dinner. Steve was gone for ten hours, so Saturday I let him sleep as long as he wanted. In addition to eating three meals, he watched a movie on TV, supervised some of our decorating, took a nap, and watched a movie with us in the evening.
Yesterday, Steve was still a bit slow. Our son and I were gone about 1 ½ hours in the morning and during that time, Steve read the paper. In the afternoon we all attended a Christmas program at church. For me, it was a nice event with Bible verses and singing. The featured singers and the harpist were wonderful and Steve really enjoyed listening to them. The problem was when the congregation would sing. There was a gentleman behind us who during each song alternated between sounding like an opera singer and Carol Channing, or between John Wayne and Jerry Lewis, as Steve described it. Either way, you get the idea. I could see this was difficult for Steve and several times asked if he wanted to step outside. He made it through the program, which was fortunately only an hour long.
Today Steve attended the class he’s been taking where he works with clay. He had lunch and told me he didn’t understand why he was so tired. Ah, ha! Yesterday’s outing was tougher on him than either of us realized.
Especially at this time of year when there are so many invitations and activities, I have to gauge how much energy an event may take and advise Steve accordingly. Depending on how closely together things are scheduled, we sometimes have to decide between what to attend, or wait until the last minute to make a decision. Tomorrow Steve has a party to attend with his retiree group. Unfortunately, Steve has a final in his class on Wednesday, but the good news is that nothing else is on the calendar until Saturday night. Believe me, it will take him that long to recover.
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