You feel the pull all day long–the pull from those who need your help. On most days, you think of the pull as part of the day. On some days, you even embrace the pull because you know you can manage all that the day requires of you.
But there’s a day when the pull feels like war. On that day, all the pulls on your time, your mind, your body, your pocketbook put you into survival mode. When that happens, one more pull puts you into battle. For some reason, the battle line seems to form at the store.
And that’s what happens on Saturday morning when you’re in line to buy donuts, a nice treat for the family. You can hear the person behind you arrive in line because of the heavy breathing and under-the-breath muttering that she doesn’t have time for this line.
Sure enough, she taps you on your shoulder. “Would you mind if I went in front of you in line? I’m in a huge hurry.”
The first shot has been fired. What to do?
A Family Caregiver’s Cheat Sheet:
One More Person Asks for Help
1. Take your time as you consider this request. Decide you can find great comfort in realizing that you can pick your battles.
2. Then, smile as you say, “Of course.”
3. Change places in line with that person behind you.
4. Take a moment to give thanks that today is a day you can get to the store and have the time you need to enjoy time in the store.
5. Enjoy looking at all the variety of donuts.
6. Turn to smile at the person who now stands behind you in line.
7. When it’s your turn, order your donuts with gratitude.
8. Accept a free donut from a store employee who says, “I saw you give up your place in line. I’ve got a free donut for you for being so awesome.”
9. Accept the free donut with a laugh and a “Thank you!”
10. Give yourself a little break by taking the long way home.
11. Enjoy the donuts with your family.
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