Everyone in your house is sick. So, you are the one in line at the pharmacy. You may not be sick but you’re not well. You’re sleep deprived, crabby, overwhelmed. And, this line at the pharmacy is really pushing your button.
You do your best. You smile at the person in front of you. You smile at the pharmacist behind the counter. You tell yourself that standing in line here means you’re not at home cleaning up vomit. And, yet….
The customer currently talking to the pharmacist has been talking to the pharmacist since 1973. And, you are in 2014 and need to get back to your house before the dawn of 2015.
You hear someone in line scream: “Call back and ask your questions! Some of us need to get our prescriptions in this century.”
Then you notice that the person in front of you now moves way in front of you. The pharmacists stares at you with an open mouth. And, the customer speaking with the pharmacist turns to look at you. The customer who also happens to be your son’s high school history teacher. Who just gave your son a D on a paper.
They stare at you because you are that screaming person in line.
You’ve blown your top.
A Family Caregiver’s Cheat Sheet
You Blow Your Top in the Pharmacy Line
1. Apologize. “I’m so sorry. I haven’t slept in a few days because everyone in my house is sick, including my mom who has dementia.”
2. Nod with a smile toward the history teacher. “Hello, Mrs. Smith. My apologies to you. I understand how important it is to get all the information you need before you go home.”
3. Take out your phone and send a text to yourself so it looks like you have important business to attend to on your phone.
4. Say, “I think I’ll do a little more shopping before I get the prescriptions.”
5. Head to the candy section, looking for your son’s favorite bag because when he feels better he’s going to need it.
6. Head out to your car to hide.
7. Decide the drive-through will be the better option to get the prescriptions.
8. As you drive home, remind yourself, “This too shall pass.”
9. When you get home, ask your son how you can help with his History homework.
10. At the end of the evening, you look back on the day with gratitude for the opportunity to spend time with your son. You realize you tell yourself too often, “He’s a teenager–he’d rather do this on his own.” Today, you realized that he always needs your time and attention.
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