flower-180035_640Others ask, “How are you?”

Of course you say, “Fine.”

Because how do you say how you really are? How do you say, “I’m broken. I’m empty. I’m behind.”

How do you explain that life has fined you, saddled you with a day that’s too full and a life that’s too bleak?

When you’re in the thick of a struggle, you just can’t see fine. You see doubt–in yourself, your abilities, your life.

But we see you. We see you managing your day’s moments, coping with your life’s struggles, taking a step forward every chance you get. We see you continuing, carrying the worry and stress, which means you do amazing work from the moment you wake until the moment you fall asleep.

You are fine. We see it. Believe us. You are fine.

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

2 thoughts on “Fine

  1. Gail Kroll

    @denise! This made me tear up and cry! How true this is for me. I am always “fine.” I am tired of “fine.” Things could be a whole lot better for Mom and me. Honestly. Mostly for Mom. She deals with the pain and agony of her disorder and illnesses. Please God help us!

  2. Avatar of JaneJane

    I always say fine too… I struggle with this when people ask about Nicole too…. I just want to say fine also. Most of the time I feel that people don’t really want to know how you really are anyway and it is just a courtesy.



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