My Husband, My Hero and Murphy’s Law

If it is rare, if it almost never happens, if there is only a slight chance, in find you soonerany given health crisis, it happens to my husband.

Know many people who have had two stints fail within three months and end up having by pass surgery? MRSA contracted after a surgery, showing up negative after three months of IV antibiotics, only to end up with reoccurrence a year later in such a masked, deadly, septic way that it took three weeks and near death to diagnosis? That once it was found it required a removal of an artificial femoral graft in an eight plus hour surgery? Not to mention the whole misdiagnosis that more than likely left him a paraplegic. I could keep going with past history but you get the gist.

In typical Murphy logic, Thursday he had a “routine” surgery for dialysis patients. They go into the forearm do some rewiring of the veins and arteries and build an A V Fistula. When this matures, it will be the access for dialysis. A temporary port is also inserted in his chest. When I went to see him in the recovery room he complained of numbness and tingling in his thumb and first two fingers. The surgeon said this was more than likely due to the local anesthetic that was put in his arm in addition to the general he was under. It will wear off in a few hours like when you go to the dentist.

When I arrived at the hospital Friday, my husband was still down at dialysis. I knew when he was returning to his room before I saw him. I knew because I heard him howling uncontrollably in pain from down the hall. Now he has been through a lot, and I know he has a high tolerance for pain. There was definitely something wrong. The surgeon was called, and to his credit actually came up to check with another patient waiting for him on the OR table. He said he’d have to go back in to check that there was no blockage or clot. My husband was again prepped for surgery and scheduled next. It turned out that due to my husband’s vascular disease that he was not getting enough blood flow to his hand. The surgeon did some “tweaking” of the fistula and my husband felt immediate relief in recovery.

courage and perserveranceNow our dilemma is his arms are his legs. With the fistula and incision needing time to recover, how does he transfer?  The surgeon believes two or three days and he should be able to put pressure on it without pain. They will have physical and occupational therapy work with him to try and find alternate ways for him to move about.  Then he will be able to come home.

Throughout all this: the frightening morning that took us to the ER, the diagnosis of end stage renal failure, the need for dialysis and the surgery, he stays positive. Every time he gets knocked down, he dusts himself off and gets ready to face the next challenge. I am in awe of the strength and bravery he always has. It’s not an act; he’s not putting on a brave face for me. It is who he is.

My husband, my hero.

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7 Comments on "My Husband, My Hero and Murphy’s Law"

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Jan 12, 2014

Dearest Pegi, I tried commenting on your beautiful post all night but my computer was on the glitch. Anyway? I wanted to tell you how much I loved your obvious love for your husband shines through in this post. It gives us all hope and admiration for our carees. Thank you for saying it as you always do so eloquently and beautifully again.God bless you and Jim, Pegi! Your Faith shines through too! God bless you and Jim!My prayers and love go out to you both always! Love, Gail XO

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Jan 12, 2014

Pegi, I admire not only the strength and determination of your husband but yours as well. It’s amazing either one of you can crack a smile through such relentless and unforgiving obstacles. As much as you guys can handle, I am hoping for some relief for both of you so you can enjoy just a simple day without pain, infection or surprises. I loved your post the other day about hoping this dialysis, while something you’ve tried to keep at bay, just might bring you and your husband happier days in which he feels better. That’s my wish for you both, too. Sending love, hugs, and prayers my dear friend.

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Jan 12, 2014

Pegi, I am so sorry that he has had to go through all of this and you, as well. I know I’ve tried to check in here and again to make sure you’re doing okay. You are so strong and I draw a lot of my strength from you. I AM keeping you both in my prayers.

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Jan 13, 2014

Hi Pegi–I so hope that new week brings good luck.

It’s so nice to be married to your hero, isn’t it? I would imagine Jim says the same about you.

Thanks so much for keeping us posted.

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Jan 13, 2014

Pegi, I am so glad to hear you are married to your hero! You two have really been through the wringer of an adventure this time! May God continue to grant healing emotionally and physically for you both!