dahlia-garden-61566_640Some days can feel like the ol’ bait and switch. You get lured in, thinking all is going swimmingly and then bam! you can barely keep your head above the water.

Then the chastising begins. “I should known better,” you’ll tell yourself. “I should have known this day just could not go right.”

And, so they day ends, with you feeling like the little fish that got swallowed up by the big whale.

Know that you are not life’s bait being tossed out into a sea of sharks. What goes wrong in your day goes wrong for others, too. You’re not being singled out, or punished, or tested.

You’ll have truly difficult moments, often simply tragic. These moments aren’t meant to bait you into self recriminations but nudge you into loving support. We connect to others in moments of joy and times of pain. And, those connections show us our life’s purpose and meaning.

Life isn’t baiting you. It’s opening up for you.

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

2 thoughts on “Bait

  1. Gail Kroll

    Today I learned something. Mom needs to tell the CNA what to do. The CNA is MOM’s nurse. NOT mine! I will do the extra chores etc. which have to be done. Mom can order around the CNA. Also? We are no longer going to the oncologist. It isn’t covered by Medicare since she is in Hospice and not going to “get better.” So? I must accept that. And my two sisters? They will have to do so too. And now? The paranoia? The depression and anxiety? They are going to give or rather I AM going to give Mom another drug. One the hospice and our PCP accepts as a good idea. I am thrilled. things are progressing. Heavens above? today which started out a disaster? Ended up well. I just hope Mom and I can sleep tonight. We didn’t last night.

  2. Avatar of PearLadyPearLady

    Not sure how much it’s opening up lately as swallowing me whole. Feeling so topsy-turvy and not sure which way is up. Perhaps I need one of those “this way is up” signs on the front of my shirt. :/


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