If you are out to describe the truth, leave elegance to the tailor. ~ Albert Einstein
The pain has been severe; the long sleepless hours have been agony. But now we know the truth behind the pain, we know the truth that is causing those sleepless days.
When the MRI results came in on Thursday, our fears became our reality. “It’s good that we know what we are dealing with,” I said to TLO. “Yes, as difficult as this news is to hear, it is better to know,” TLO responded. In the back of our minds, we both knew that this was not a case of sciatica.
The cancer has moved to his hip, pelvis and down his right leg. In order to relieve his pain, we will start palliative radiation treatments immediately. We are considering a PET scan to determine where else the cancer might be in his body, yet how much more do we really want to know?
There is comfort in holding each other and having a good cry.
It is at these times when the dual role of family caregiver and partner intertwine. The fate of reality projects our thoughts to a future which has not arrived. You want the pain to go away; nothing more, nothing less. Removing the caregiving role provides for more free time yet losing a partner leaves an emptiness that only makes free time more difficult.
As family caregivers, we often fail to reach out and ask for help. Those reasons vary from wanting to do it alone, to not knowing how to ask for help. With that, family and friends have to have their own comfort zone when asking what they can do to help. I have been on both sides of this dilemma. The most important part of this process is to be aware and act within one’s comfort zone.
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TLO and I understand that we have a difficult road ahead, but that is okay because we know the truth and we can deal with it accordingly. The quick response from his primary care physician and radiation oncologist to have his treatment plan set up within 24 hours has simply amazed us. We are so fortunate to have Dr. Starcevic and Dr. Medina on our Care Team. It goes without saying how fortunate we are to have each and everyone one of you with us on this journey because…
We Might Have Cancer, But Cancer Does Not Have Us!
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