More Cancer, More Radiation

If you are out to describe the truth, leave elegance to the tailor. ~ Albert Einstein

The pain has been severe; the long sleepless hours have been agony. But now we know the truth behind the pain, we know the truth that is causing those sleepless days.

More Cancer.

More Radiation.

When the MRI results came in on Thursday, our fears became our reality. “It’s good that we know what we are dealing with,” I said to TLO. “Yes, as difficult as this news is to hear, it is better to know,” TLO responded. In the back of our minds, we both knew that this was not a case of sciatica.

The cancer has moved to his hip, pelvis and down his right leg. In order to relieve his pain, we will start palliative radiation treatments immediately. We are considering a PET scan to determine where else the cancer might be in his body, yet how much more do we really want to know?

There is comfort in holding each other and having a good cry.

FightCancerOne thing that we have decided is that we are going to enjoy every day together.  We will not let the cancer rule us because as Saint Augustine said, “Love is the beauty of the soul.”

It is at these times when the dual role of family caregiver and partner intertwine. The fate of reality projects our thoughts to a future which has not arrived. You want the pain to go away; nothing more, nothing less. Removing the caregiving role provides for more free time yet losing a partner leaves an emptiness that only makes free time more difficult.

As  family caregivers, we often fail to reach out and ask for help. Those reasons vary from wanting to do it alone, to not knowing how to ask for help. With that, family and friends have to have their own comfort zone when asking what they can do to help. I have been on both sides of this dilemma. The most important part of this process is to be aware and act within one’s comfort zone.

supportIf you are wondering what you might be able to do, please feel free to:

  • Call us
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  • Visit us
  • Pray for us
  • Do what makes YOU most comfortable

TLO and I understand that we have a difficult road ahead, but that  is okay because we know the truth and we can deal with it accordingly. The quick response from his primary care physician and radiation oncologist to have his treatment plan set up within 24 hours has simply amazed us. We are so fortunate to have Dr. Starcevic and Dr. Medina on our Care Team. It goes without saying how fortunate we are to have each and everyone one of you with us on this journey because…

We Might Have Cancer, But Cancer Does Not Have Us! 



10 thoughts on “More Cancer, More Radiation

  1. Avatar of RichardRichard

    Chris and TLO,
    I am so sorry to hear about the progression of the cancer. Our and Roberts prayers go out to you both. If there is anything we can do, please let us know. You both are in our hearts and our prayers.
    – Hughes Kreis Family

    • Avatar of ChrisChris Post author

      Thank you for sending along your thoughts and prayers, they mean quite a bit to us. Please give our best to Trish and Robert too!

  2. Avatar of CathyCathy

    Dear Chris and TLO,

    In the short time I have been here, I feel like I have come to know you both through Chris’s posts. Especially feel that I have come to know something about your relationship. I am thankful that you have each other. I hate that you are going through this but so admire your support of each other and your love.

    The news is very tough to take. Very glad to hear that palliative care is kicking in. Nothing is more important, in my book. I don’t think you both need any reminder of living each day to the fullest or any other such platitudes.

    My heart is with you both and hope that you are able to keep us informed. I wish I was closer to Florida. I would stop on by.


  3. Avatar of PegiPegi

    Chris, I’m so incredibly sorry to hear you have yet another ordeal ahead. I am in awe of the positive attitudes both you and TLO have. You both are always in my prayers. Please do savor every moment with each other; your mutual devotion to each other is inspiring. Down the road a piece and a phone call away, I mean it. Hugs to both of you.

    • Avatar of ChrisChris Post author


      Thanks so much for stopping by and your continued support. Its great to know that there is someone close by who I can call at a moments notice, that in and of itself brings comfort!

      Hugs back at you, too!

  4. Avatar of DeniseDenise

    I’m so glad you’re keeping us posted, Chris. I hope all goes okay today. Please let us know as you can how you both are doing. We’re all thinking of you and wishing peace and comfort for both of you.

  5. Avatar of EllysGdaughterEllysGdaughter

    Oh My, Chris and TLO,,, you have had quite an adventure and have sought out the truth behind the pain. You are walking so well together with your care team, it is such a blessing for you both! I wish you well as the radiation treatments begin and praying for peace and comfort for you both. Thank you so much for sharing!

  6. Avatar of ThedogmamaThedogmama

    Your love for one another and your “Joie de vivre” is so inspiring. Thank you for showing me “how it is done”. The right way. Blessing and prayers coming from New England to you. (Maybe a little of this snow, too!) LOL


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