When You Look Back, What Will Make You Proud?

driving-mirror-235570_640Some days feel like 10 years rather than 24 hours. And, on those days, caregiving seems like it will never end.

Except that it does.

As hard as it is to think about caregiving ending, I think the knowledge that it ends helps you let go of what doesn’t matter and hold on to what does. It’s tough, though, because the grind of caregiving can cover up what really matters. An insight from your future self about today’s priorities can be a helpful technique to use to reveal your priorities.

So, let’s pretend it’s a date in the future. It could be 2024, could be 2034. Choose a year that works for you. In this year in the future, we connect for lunch and I ask you: When you look back at your caregiving experience, what makes you most proud?

Share how you want to describe what you accomplished during your caregiving experience in our comments section, below.

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched CareGiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

5 thoughts on “When You Look Back, What Will Make You Proud?

  1. Avatar of RichardRichard

    I’m most proud of several things (in no particular order)

    - My kids and who they’ve become and where they are.
    - That I put everything I had into everything I did.
    - That I found my (1 in 308 million) partner and she
    stands by me, for me.
    - Finally, that I did everything to the best of my ability
    and if something failed it was not all put on me.

    - Richard

  2. Avatar of Gail KrollGail Kroll

    That no matter how often my two sisters said “Have your own life and basically let Mom go?” I stuck by Mom and made her my first and foremost priority. She is my family just like they have husbands and children. I have Mom. And will until she dies.

  3. Avatar of ThedogmamaThedogmama

    That I was able to help my Mom live the final years of her life in my home with as much comfort, understanding and love as was humanly possible.

  4. Avatar of EllysGdaughterEllysGdaughter

    I would want to be proud of the way I cared for my Grandma, keeping her dignity and respect. I am hopeful that I will be proud of what I learned about myself and made changes that positively impact the rest of my life as I relate to my family, friends and others!

  5. Victoria Sanjuan

    I am most proud that I had the strength to handle every aspect of my Dad’s years with dementia, stand by him the very end, still raise my three children but most of all that I was able to let go of the father/daughter relationship and comfortably become my dad’s
    “parent” caregiver and come out a stronger, healthier person.


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