Update: I Am Staying in Business (Phew!)

(Update: We got acquired!! And, that means we stay together as a community. Thanks so much for everyone for all your help and support to make this happen.)

sun-55518_640Unfortunately, I have run out of money.

I actually ran out of money about three years ago and have been hanging on by my fingernails since then. On March 3, I went into negative territory (I’m overdrawn in both my business and personal checking accounts) with more bills due now and on April 1.

Because of my inability to make money, I have to go out of business which means I have to shut down CareGiving.com and AfterGiving.com.

The money struggle has followed me since I started my business 20 years ago this month. I launched my first product to help family caregivers (Caregiving!, a monthly newsletter) in January 1995. I built a basic website in 1996 and debuted CareGiving.com in the fall of that year. Soon after, I added online support groups so family caregivers could connect and share with others in a similar situation at any time of the day and night. I continued to add refine and add products and services which I hoped would help.

I’ve flirted with going out of my business more times than I can count. I’ve worked other full-time and part-time jobs to keep going. For 12 of the past 20 years, I’ve lived with my parents so I could keep my business going. I had to move back home in 2012. I long for my own address.

I am working to dig myself out of this hole and will continue to look for full-time work. I do have a part-time babysitting job for which I am very grateful.

Through last nigh, I continued to think of events, new products and new services I could add or tweak which would bring in money. I did my best to keep the faith, to stay positive and to believe I could do it. It simply was not meant to be. This morning, I decided I needed to honestly address my situation and simply shut down.

So, the last day the websites will be up is March 31. Please feel free to use the websites as much as you would like before then. Our final event will be our Virtual Caregiving Conference, which will happen March 30. I will continue to share stories in our Hire a Family Caregiver campaign through next Monday. And, if you like the idea of wearing green because you care on April 11, please go for it and share your photos on your social networks.

Over the years, @Trish @G-J @Kreisler @Kathy @jo @rainbow @Jbones1961 and @ejourneys have sent me money to keep me going. Thank you so much for your help. I am so gratitude for your kindness and generosity. I also want to wish @ejourneys good health in abundance.

I’m grateful for the help from our wonderful volunteers: @oscargal @jbones1961 @Trish @G-J @Kreisler and @worriedwife.

Thanks so much for NorthShore Care Supply, which has been a generous supporter of CareGiving.com over the years.

If you are a member of CareGiving.com, you also received a separate email from me.

I did love doing this. I appreciate everyone who stopped by the website over the years. Thank you all so much.

If you are interested in purchasing the domain name, CareGiving.com, please feel free to email me at caregivingyears1@gmail.com. Beginning April 1, you can reach me at caregivingyears1@gmail.com.

Finally, you have so many options and choices today to receive support as you care. Please feel free to share other websites and resources you recommend in the comments section, below.

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About Denise Brown

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched CareGiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

69 thoughts on “Update: I Am Staying in Business (Phew!)

  1. Patricia

    Wow. I have only recently discovered this website and it has been such a comfort to me. I am so sorry to hear that it will be going away.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      I’m so glad the site has been a comfort to you. Your comment is a comfort to me today. :) I know the members will share ways to keep in touch so be sure to check back as you can.

  2. Avatar of G-JG-J


    I was so sorry to read your e-mail this morning. I hoped that it was sent by someone who had hacked into your account and that it wasn’t really from you. I know maintaining this business has been a labor of love and I’m impressed that you’ve kept it going as long as you have.

    You have made a difference in this world. You have helped me more than you know and have connected with me people I consider good friends.

    I wish you continued success and a more profitable future.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Thank you so much, G-J. :) I sooo appreciate your kindness and your support. In August of 2012, I was having a rough day. You checked in on me, I mentioned that the day was tough and before I knew it, you had sent me money. You gave me so much hope for so long, G-J. I am eternally grateful.

  3. Avatar of JaneJane

    My heart breaks that you have to do this not only for you but for myself. I have met wonderful people through this site and gotten wonderful support I will miss this terribly. I can’t imagine the difficult decisions that you have had to made and how much this hurts you also.

    I agree with G-J…. you have made a difference in the world … my world and a lot of other people. I hope that all your hopes and dreams will come true in the future.


    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Thank you so much, Jane. We have spent so much time together these past three years. The relationships make a decision like this really tough. I loved meeting you and Nicole in person. I’m soooo grateful for how much you helped here on the website. I will keep you posted about the fan page.

  4. Avatar of darciejanedarciejane

    I discovered this site 9 months ago, and though I have not been as active as I would have liked to be, I have come here to read much more often than anyone knows. What a great site…..nothing else even comes close, and Denise, you are truly a force of nature. I have wondered all this time what keeps you afloat, and I guess we have our answer to that question now. Never has the need for caregiver support been greater than it is now, but sadly, this wonderful site becomes another casualty of the tough times we live in. I have a very very short personal list of people I will admire and look up to always, for what they have given and for the toll it has taken upon them to do so. Denise, you have more than earned your spot. I know that you will land on your feet and you will never ever regret what you poured into this work. – darciejane

  5. Avatar of EllysGdaughterEllysGdaughter

    Oh, Denise, how heartbreaking it is for you to make these tough decisions! I totally understand about wanting to have your own address. . . and you MUST do this for yourself and others. Taking care of ourselves is so very important! We will all hopefully understand how we can continue on some level until this kind of site returns, either by you or one of the others! Your wisdom and encouragement have been amazing in the past two years since I’ve started here. Nothing worth doing is Free and you have poured yourself into what you have believed in, sacrificially! Thank you, doesn’t begin to say enough from my heart. I look forward to hearing about your adventure and how you will continue! Plan to keep in touch!!

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Ah, EG. I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone as sweet as you. I will keep you posted. I soooo appreciate your support. :)

  6. Avatar of Roaring MouseRoaring Mouse


    I got your email this morning while I was in a phone meeting taking notes. I can’t begin to imagine the emotion that rages through you right now.

    You were the person that taught me what a caregiver was..as I didn’t know there was such a term. The site became my refuge for positive thoughts, courage and prayers. It helped me understand that I wasn’t alone, that it was okay to speak what I think; and that I really was still a smart and independent person. All the wonderful people I ran into …my family of caregivers offered such hope and kind thoughts. Everyone here shared frustration, education, tears and laughter.

    When I faced nightmares not to be wished on anyone everyone and yourself, you helped encourage me to continue the advocation and save my hubby’s life many times more then I’ll admit. Then when he passed away…all the hugs and warm thoughts…with the exception of very few around me…you all were the most positive people I had around you …even if only via this site.

    I understand the financial aspect…more then I’ll say here. But I have some good future hope that if time permits I’ll elaborate more on …on Sunday. I can’t begin to say how often I wanted to send money; even when someone asked me to apply to the scholarship. It wasn’t because I didn’t want it outright; but legally I was not allowed to accept it due to the LTD nightmare…it was frustrating. But I was so impressed and caught with emotion that you and everyone here wanted to help and offer support.

    Denise, your heart is huge! And it is infectious! All caregivers who have been blessed to know you, work with you or meet you are honored like myself to have that contagion, spirit and gentile spirit. They say people come in and out of your life for a reason and that they are like angels that G-d sends to help you through a specific time.

    I am glad you were one of those angels who not only came…but brought everyone else with her to help a caregiver like me.

    Should there ever be anything you think I can help you with…please don’t think twice about asking.


    The RoaringMouse (AKA Laura George)
    With the Caregiving/Aftergiving sites since 2010

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Thank you so much, Laura. I can’t thank enough for all your kindness and support. It is a tough day and you’re helping me through it. :)

  7. Avatar of LarryLarry

    I have an idea to continue on a smaller more distributed way but would need some moderation help with it. I would be willing to set it all up and do some of the moderation myself but would not have the time to do it all alone! I will not start setting this up until I get the approval of Denise and some commitments to help with the moderation but I do not want to see the group have to break up because of this. It would involve some changes and we would not have the history that is here unless it is reposted on the new as I know that there will not be a direct way to import it. I have found this site so helpful and caring of the a place that I do not want to see it go but I also understand Denise’s potion and do support her decision to do what is best for her!

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      You are just wonderful, Larry. I am so inspired and touched by all you do. Thank you so much for your support and kindness.

    • Avatar of LisaLisa

      Larry, I am at home 24/7 with Dad and could definitely help some with moderation. I don’t want to see our group break up either. I just found you all and already you’ve been a tremendous help and support to me. If you want to email me privately about this, I do have an idea but yours could be much better. Anything I can do to help I will try and do for all of us.

  8. Avatar of ZkidooKreativZkidooKreativ

    I’m really sorry that caregiving.com is to close, especially as I’ve only been a member since last year, and from across the pond in the UK.

    I recently set up my own forum, and with permission from Denise, I have posted the link below. If anyone wishes to join me and my, at the moment, handful of friendly members, then please do. We are all current or ex family or friend caregivers (carers as we call ourselves in the UK), and we’d be delighted to welcome new members from the US. The forum, called Zkidoo’s Caregiving Café, is member only.

    Please pop in and take a look http://www.zkidoo.co.uk/caregivingcafe.htm

    In the meantime, I’d like to give a big thank you to you Denise, for all your hard work and perseverance over the years, and wish you all the very best for the future. Although we haven’t known each other long, I feel I have found a true friend, and I hope we can both keep in touch.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Ah, Martyn, we’ve had such fun together! I hope to travel some day to see you. :) Thank you so much for all your help and support.

  9. debbie

    I am so sad to hear this news. I have not participated in this website since Richard died in October (2013), but caregiving.com was a God-send for me at the time I needed it most. I’m sure everyone feels the same way.

    You’ve touched so many lives in such a positive way. You are an angel here on earth Denise and I wish you only the best in whatever you decide you need to do. Please know that I, and everyone else whose lives you touched, are better because of it. I hope you do realize that!

    I wish I knew what to do to help you as you’ve helped so many. One of the things I learned from this site, is to ask for what I need. So Denise, if there’s anything ever that I can do for you, please ask me.

    Take care of yourself.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Hi Debbie–You have been such a big help to me! It was such a honor to be a part of your caregiving journey. I loved lunching with you and Pegi during my November visit. I will definitely keep you posted. And, I’m so very grateful for all your help and support.

  10. Avatar of PegiPegi

    You know my story, you know my heart when it comes to you and Caregiving.com. But I also wanted to comment publicly. You deserve nothing but the best. Your own address, your own life; anything you desire. You have given so much to so many. I stand among the throngs of those you saved from the isolation, the despair and fear that so easily can overtake the best of caregivers; which by the way I did not know I was one unitl you. With a sadden heart, I wish for you all that your heart desires, and much success in your future endeavors. You and this magical place only you could have created will be sorely missed. Never forget what you created here, it is a success story of its own. I know there will be a void in my heart. You always know where to find me, if there is anyway or anything I can do for you in return.

  11. Avatar of PearLadyPearLady

    I just cyber-met you all…and now I feel like my heart is breaking, for all y’all are what has kept me going during some tough times. Dang, I wish I could help, but I don’t have the money to give. Sucks like a Dyson (or so I hear, can’t really afford that, either.) Sigh.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Oh, PL. Oh, I know! I tried so hard to avoid this day for this very reason. You all have a strong bond and relationship. Your support will stay intact. The room changes but the support won’t. :)

  12. Mallory

    I have just found this website and have spent all day reading through its amazing articles and inspiring words. Even after a single day in this community, it is so sad to hear that all of this will soon come to an end. I am a past caregiver and cancer survivor who is also trying to reach and help this caregiving community. Good luck with your next steps Denise. Everything that you’ve done here is so fantastic…you have brought so much to so many people. Thank you.

  13. Norah

    Denise, I am so sorry to hear this. As everyone has mentioned, your site is an invaluable resource, and I often refer people here and say, “I’m sure someone has gone through this, too. Check the forums on caregiving.com and you will find support there.”

    But at the same time, absolutely, you must practice what you preach and look after yourself.

    Congratulations on 20 years of exceptional, selfless work.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Nora, I am sooo glad you posted. You have been soooo kind to me. Every day, people want to connect with me because they want something from me. You always have been one that has focused on the greater good. Thank you so much for your kindness and support.

  14. Avatar of KathyKathy

    I don’t even know where to begin, or even know how to say it.
    Denise, You tried so hard for so long. I still believe in what you do.
    I’ve mentioned before, you have a gift, God has a plan.

    I’ve made friendships here that have had a wonderfully significant impact on my life.
    What you fought so hard to provide here was more than caregiver support, we became family.
    Thank you for letting me be a part of the “family”.

    Much love and many prayers for success as you move into the next phase of your life.

  15. Donna Thomson

    Oh Denise, I am stunned and SO sorry that our caregiving community will be losing your entire architecture of support and wisdom. What a national treasure you are!!! I am so sorry that the practical issue of money was a barrier to you continuing on your mission to help others. I know that you will continue to be heard and you will continue to help – it’s in your DNA. I send you a very gentle cyber hug, love and admiration for all that you have contributed over the years. I am a BIG fan. All the very best for the future, Donna xo

      • Donna Thomson

        It just occurred to me – what about setting up a GoFundMe site or even a Kickstarter? So many friends of the site could each contribute a bit and save Caregiving.com. What do you think? I send you a gentle and sincere cyber hug. xox

        • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

          Hi–I actually did try this three times last year with very little success, which is why I didn’t try it again. A good idea, though!!

  16. Avatar of LisaLisa

    Denise, I am so sorry things are working this way for you but I do understand so much of this. The commitment, the financial aspect, your life you want again, all of that. Selfishly though, I am saddened for not only myself but for all of us here. I just found the group and it has already been such a comfort for me. I replied to Larry that I can designate some time daily to help him if this is something we take on. Also, I have 2 groups on facebook, one for my Avon business and one for a book club that I drive and manage daily. While this would take more effort, if our members wanted me to set this up on fb I would be willing to do that. I know Chris has been managing the Caregiving.com page, she may need a break as well. Please let me know how I can help keep us all together! I feel like I’ve just met this network of friends.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Hi Lisa–I soooo understand!! I appreciate your kindness and have so enjoyed chatting with you. I will keep you posted.

  17. Avatar of BobBob

    Dear Denise, I don’t know quite where to begin. I believe it is over a year that I have been coming to Care-giving. com. I remember how ecstatic I was when I found it while doing a web search. Besides the written work you and others have done of which I quickly availed myself, I found a place where I could openly share about by caregiving journey. I blogged of my experience caring for my wife over this period of time. It was so helpful to get things out and read other’s comments. It has been wonderful to meet other members. As I had shared with you of my painful decision to have to detach from being primary caregiver to my spouse because of my own illness, you encouraged me to blog about my experience here. Unfortunately, so much has happened since I last spoke to you. My house is finally going to be going back to the bank in a deed in lieu of foreclosure. It was on this site that I learned about the deed in lieu. I didn’t have to walk away from my house thank God because of the alternative of doing the deed in lieu which helped me work with my lender to take back my house and forgive my debt.

    So I found out this evening when reading my e-mail that you could no longer keep the site going for financial reasons. When I read all you have done to try and save this from happening, I am just blown away. How hard you have worked to keep it going–an understatement. Denise, I can’t imagine the cost that it must take to keep a thriving, ever evolving, one of a kind web-site like Caregiving.com going.

    In my eyes, you have truly been indefatigable in the work you have done for caregivers and their loved ones. I want to tell you again, just how much you have helped me since I have been here. And, I want to say how much members have helped me because this web-site has existed.

    I also feel that those who have been a part of Caregiving.com can carry a torch to illuminate for others the many aspects of the caregiving experience and journey to a world that does not always appreciate what caregivers do. In my limited experience, it seems that the world around us could definitely be more well-informed about caregiving. Hopefully, new services may become available to assist and support caregivers and carees.

    Thanks for your new e-mail as I would like to keep in touch if even to see how you are doing. You are in my thoughts and prayers for what you have done and for a new beginning.

    With deep loving-kindness to you Denise. May the God of your understanding bless you today and every day on your life journey.

    Sincerely, Bob

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Hi Bob–I’m so glad you wrote because I want to share a story. :) I was having a difficult time last July–I was waiting for a check and waiting and waiting and getting the run around and just completely stressed out. The first thing I do in the morning is check the site (make sure she’s up and running okay). On this particular day in July, I checked the site and saw that you posted one of your beautiful poems and photos. Oh, you breathed life into me that day! You erased my worries about money and bills and future. It’s why I encourage you so much to share your talents. They healed me, just as they will heal you and everyone looking to enjoy them. :)

  18. Avatar of TrishTrish

    Denise, I echo the others in that you have been a treasure to all of us. It has been an incredible experience being here, making lifelong friends and getting help through my caregiving experience. You really have created something beautiful and special. You deserve to take care of you – to get your own address. To take a break. You have many friends here and those are not going away. Thank you for everything you’ve done for me. My book is published because of your push and your confidence in me – I will never forget that. This isn’t goodbye. xoxo

  19. Avatar of ChrisChris

    Denise, I congratulate you on a job well-done! Through your hard work and dedication to Family Caregivers, you have touched so many lives and brought so many people together from across the world, we’re all better for knowing you. The extended family you have created will always be ‘yours’. One of the first things you taught me was to learn how to take better care of myself in my role as a Caregiver. You again have taught us how to care and how to make difficult decisions. Now that this difficult decision is out of the way, take a deep breath and be excited for all the good things that are going to come your way because good things happen to good people. You’re on the top of that good people list! XOXO

  20. Cathy Mitchell

    I just got home from a long weekend away and am trying to absorb your letter to us . So sorry Diane that it has come to this for you. I also think it is important for many of us to keep going. I will write more tomorrow. In the meantime, I can’t imagine how hard this was for you. Hugs!!!

  21. Avatar of ThedogmamaThedogmama

    Denise I cannot imagine how your heart broke when you wrote to us this week. Your work helped my rediscover “myself” while going through my caregiving journey with my mother. You enabled my to find this wonderful community of support when I felt alone and overwhelmed. Your patience, clear direction and compassionate words and actions must have touched so many over the last 20 years. But there is a time when the brick hits you in the head for the second or third time (sometimes even more – especially in my case – I seem to be particularly hard headed) and you let go of one direction to embrace a new direction. I have no doubt you will continue to touch lives as you go forth to find “yourself” as you have counseled us to do. Bravo for all you have done and I can’t wait to see all that you will do. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, you and all my new friends on CareGiving.com have been truly a gift from God. TDM aka Gail Palmer

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Hi TDM–The writing was on the wall. :) I loved chatting with you during our evening chats. I always felt like I was sitting right next to you at your fireplace. I will keep you posted.

  22. Avatar of LisaDLisaD

    I’m so sorry to hear this. You and this site helped me in stressful situations and helped me to cope with things better. I wish you well. I do hope you are able to keep the facebook page. We can post stories, articles, and even blog posts as well as still have a place to commiserate.


    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Hi Lisa–We’ll definitely keep you posted about the fan page. You are so right–it’s a nice way to stay connected.

  23. Avatar of papabearpapabear

    As a member for only about a month, I was not able to get involved with the group and it would be easy for me to say something a great as the others. Denise you invested as a great encourager and provided a lot of help to those who have been with the group quite a while. I will now try to find another place to provide the help and understanding and say goodbye.


    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Hi Bill–Please feel free to send me an email (denise@caregiving.com). I’d be happy to help and make sure you have what you need.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Angie–I just saw your lovely message you posted on Facebook, asking for prayers for me. Thank you so much for that. I am so touched by how much everyone has helped and supported me. I’m just so grateful.

  24. Avatar of Gail KrollGail Kroll

    Dear Denise, I tried to make a life coaching session with you but found no way to do so. I thought I could say “I love you” and help out financially. I wish I could do more of both.
    This site as you know has been my salvation.
    I was hoping to join aftercaregiving.com in the not too distant future unfortunately. My life has been made so much better by your care and consideration. You are a true blessed soul. You have given me good advice and often beautiful words of wisdom.
    You let me back in to my surprise and I was shocked and truly thankful.
    You do not know the full extent to which you have touched my care giving journey.
    I want to write a blog but have no words to express myself anymore. I do not know where to turn nor where to go.
    god bless you and if you can? Do not let go! i would help you if I can in any way possible.
    With much love,
    Gail Kroll xo

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Hi Gail–I know it’s tough to schedule coaching sessions given the intensity of your caregiving day. I’m so grateful for all your support and help.

      I hope the announcement of this morning (we’re continuing!) wipes away your worries. And, AfterGiving.com continues, too. Phew! :)

      • Gail Kroll

        Dear Denise,
        You are right. As much as I love our life coaching sessions? They are almost if not impossible to schedule with Mom and my situation.
        Anyway? This news is GREAT! Will we still have afternoon chats? I would love that. Sometimes I can still make those 1 pm ones. I am so happy for YOU and US, Denise! Where would I be without this site? LOST! :)
        Thank you for trying all these years to keep us afloat. It worked out for the best! For us ALL!
        Thank you Denise!
        With love,
        Gail xo

  25. Avatar of Gail KrollGail Kroll

    Hi RM! I am not an aftergiver yet. I am still a caregiver but will keep your email address in mind. Thank you so much for the warm welcome!

  26. Avatar of ejourneysejourneys

    (I posted this early yesterday morning, but it seems not to have taken. Trying again.)

    Denise, I know you have struggled with this for quite a while and have given it everything that you could give. As painful as lessons are, they are also valuable. They will serve you well going forward. As Kathy has said, you have created a family here, for which I am immensely grateful. As EG and Pegi have said, you need your own life. That is instrumental to your own healing and balance. I have called this site a sanity-saver — it provided me with the validation I dearly needed and terrific friendships with people I am honored to know. In addition to those you have acknowledged, I would like to publicly thank Bette Scott — I remember the labors she and her family put in for years, including a bake sale on behalf of the site.

    Thank you also for your good wishes for me — I am just a few hours away from surgery [am back home now]. Being a caregiver and advocate for my partner has prepared me well for this new adventure.

    This is not the end. This is only Act I. You have set in motion and nurtured something marvelous. We move on, but we do so with newfound strength and resilience because we remain a community. As G-J and Jane have said, you have made a difference in the world. May all caregivers be so blessed, from simple acceptance without judgment of our shared perspectives and challenges. Truly, we have strength in numbers and camaraderie. Thank you again, and I wish you all the best of luck.

  27. Avatar of JoJo

    Denise, I like many others immediately assumed your account had been hacked when I read your email. And like them I jumped on your only to have the painful realization that this was indeed happening.

    My next reaction was misery because I was overwhelmed with a sense that I had failed you. I racked my brain for what else could I have done and because I have a good imagination I came up with all sorts of should’ves/could’ves…. Probably not fair to either you or I but you know me, I’m an honest bloke.

    Finally perspective prevailed. This wasn’t after all about me. If I felt this bad imagine how you felt.

    I know this was always much more than a business to you, it was a calling, a life mission.

    Please know that you have not failed in that mission. Take away from the many comments and expressions of our love that…

    You are and always will be a Caregiver to Caregivers.

    You didn’t become one because of a website and the closure of one doesn’t change your status or the stature with which you are beheld.

    We’ll just call this episode a Commencement for lack of better term. As one person has commented, one chapter is ending but another is immediately beginning.

    • Avatar of DeniseDenise Post author

      Ah, Jo. I can’t tell you much I related to what you wrote. I, too, thought every day: What could I have done differently? How can I turn this around? I asked for help, I reached out to anyone, perfect strangers to ask for help.

      I guess it’s all about timing. The timing was right for the good news of this morning to happen.

      It’s an odd feeling to put out your troubles, to bring others into your fold of worries. The worry, of course, is bringing everyone into my problem. Is that fair? I’m struggling with that a bit this morning. The reality, though, is that this help came because I did say, “I’m in big trouble.” :)

      Thank you so much, Jo. You are just awesome.

      • Cathy Mitchell

        I totally understand questioning yourself. But I am very glad that you did ! In the end it all worked out so well for you. In this group I have learned to ask for help. You, of all people, should be able to do so here. Best wishes!

  28. Cathy Mitchell

    I have tried to post and to email a few places. Facebook was faster than I thought it would be. I thought I was doing a mockup. Ha! I also added a few “members”. Though I was inviting a few as a test run. I hope that you will stay. Again, I have great hopes for Denise and I will certainly do all I can to support her fiscally and emotionally. This is not to take anything away…it is just another resource. It is another avenue to keep us together.

    Caregiving Connections

    What ? I have started a group on Facebook called Caregiving Connections. I don’t know if any of you are familiar with the closed groups on Facebook but it is very simple. You are invited to join or can ask to join. Of course, everyone I have gotten to know and who is involved in caregiving.com would be immediately asked. In the future, you can refer whomever you want. It is very open. Nothing is moderated – no one in charge – except for the initial approval process, I think. Once I get more familiar with it, I will try to make sure it wouldn’t just be me.
    Why? I wanted to be sure that we all had a place to gather on the 30th when Denise shuts down Caregiving.com. Whether it is for days or months or decades, I believe it is so important to have a place to come to talk to friends. I have great hopes for Denise and I will certainly do all I can to support her fiscally and emotionally. This is not to take anything away…it is just another resource. It is another avenue to keep us together.
    How? You will be able to post just like on your own Facebook page. You can post daily, weekly, monthly or ten times a day. You can share whatever you want to share regarding your life and caregiving. You can link to your blog posts or articles, too. Because it is a private group, only members will be able to see your posts.
    Who? As I said, I hope that current members will want to engage in this new resource. I am particularly concerned that all facets of caring are open to discussion. Planning, caring and after care – I hope that makes sense. The aftercare is so essential. For example, I have learned so much from the caregivers left behind. I still am resolving issues and finding answers to questions five years after my mother’s death. I see this as very inclusive – for all who are touched by caregiving.

    This will be as successful as we want it to be. I feel the need to keep connecting.

    • Cathy Mitchell

      As I said elsewhere, timing is everything. So happy that Denise’s news made the FB group less urgent. I will keep it up for awhile. As I said another resource. But glad we will still be here together!


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