He does what he can to make time for himself, to take breaks as he can. The past few months, though, have been particularly tough. He feels like he’s fighting a battle just to maintain the status quo, to keep Beth out of the hospital, to help her regain her strength. He feels for Beth, who tries so hard to stay positive but really struggles to keep her smile.
Scott’s buddies continue to invite him to the monthly poker game, a commitment Scott has long done his best to keep. He usually enjoys the focus on the game, the food and the banter. The poker game is simply fun.
This month, as the poker game approaches, he finds himself dreading it. He knows it’s good to go out and enjoy himself but, right now, the idea of having fun, as Beth suffers so, seems insensitive.
His buddies, who support and care for Scott, call regularly to ensure he will attend the next poker game. They sense his hesitancy and worry about him if he doesn’t take a break.
Scott appreciates their concern. He also just can’t bring himself to confirm he’ll make it. He can’t get this thought out of his head, “How in the world can I have fun when I know that Beth feels such distress?”
If you were Scott, what would you do?
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