Mom’s One Month Anniversary Appointment

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It is hard to believe all that has gone on and how fast April seemed to come and go. One month ago on April Fool’s Day Mom slipped (on a grape), landed on her knee, crawled for three (3) hours to get to the phone and the final verdict was she broke her femur only inches above her already fake knee. To repair it in an emergency surgery, they had to straighten the break and insert a 1/4″ screw through both bones. They put in a plate covering the entire length of the bone with eight smaller screws on the outside of her thigh. Her doctor is amazed; she is up and around using a wheelchair and with a plastic bag over the immobilizing brace which keeps her leg from bending she can shower.

Mom has been counting down the days to this meeting and added the appointment to her “Another Step” list, which she uses measure her progress. The list includes others items like, of course, all tubes removed, off narcotics, able to get out of bed alone, able to go to the restroom alone, putting light weight on the leg and the one month follow-up with the surgeon. I think this is a great idea for anyone in a long-term situation like this, simply use a notepad and pen or a notepad app on your smart phone. Then keep track of every milestone and when you’re feeling down, go back and read how far you’ve actually come. It could be a mood enhancer.

We meet at the doctor’s office because she has to be transported. She is in the care of the rehab facility and she is their responsibility and there’s no way she getting into a car or my SUV.  The doctor is also amazed at the healing. He said normally there is still significant scabbing, staples are still in, etc. and mom has none of those.  As usual one of mom’s first questions is, “When can I drive?”  This I’m going to step away from for now and give you all her other updates:

  • Leg is looking great, better than expected.
  • Can remove the brace if sitting or laying in bed at night or when showering.  It must be on at all other times.
  • Can place very minimal weight on the leg during therapy, when transferring from bed to wheelchair and back, etc.
  • Can start working on range of motion, which now is at about 5%.
  • No driving until you can safely work the pedals. “Period.”

Her total recovery is now looks like this:

  • 4 weeks, no weight at all
  • 4-6 weeks, minimal weight (transfers and minor therapy only)
  • 4-6 weeks, learning to walk again
  • TOTAL RECOVERY TIME: 4-5 months

Of course this is not what anyone wants to hear. On the other hand, she’s saving by not putting gas going in her car. She’s not buying food or spending money on her buddy, Taffy.

Taz (L) & Taffy (R)

Taz (L) and Taffy (R)

She’s racking up some saving in the bank. There are really major benefits with this happening, it’s helping bring her out of her depression, fast.  She’s eating a set diet and it’s helping her trim the pounds. I am proud of her because she rolled into the dietitian’s office and ask to be put on the “No Salt Diet” and not the “Low Salt Diet.” That’s pretty major. With everyone around–therapists, the doctor every morning, nurses, aides, myself and the rest of the family–she doesn’t have time to be depressed.  For her upcoming birthday, we plan to get some decent take-out and have dinner with Mom at the rehab facility and bring a cake made with mini muffins to help keep the calorie count down.

Here’s to Mom: Wishing she gets proper care, great food, quality rest, fabulous family, friends and furry animals.  And to getting back on your feet asap.  Work hard or you’re hardly working.

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My name is Richard (@kreisr1), I am a Tri-Fecta caregiver, for my mother who has COPD among other health issues. I co-care for my brother in-law who has epilepsy and co-care with my wife's for myself, I deal with Chronic Back Pain. entire life and now after living alone, in a care facility and a group home setting we had to move him in with us to provide him with the care he needs.  Finally, with my wife who is also my co-caregiver I care for myself, I have had chronic pain (mid-low back) for 21-1/2 years thanks to a drunk driver.  I write my own blog, pickyourpain.org where I share my pain with humor, as I see thing, "Pain Without Humor is Just Painful."  I am involved with caregiving.com in several ways, as well as participating in several of the weekly caregiving.com blogs, I also am involved in their Twitter chats, I also host the following groups, SPOT (Stamp Procrastination Out Today), A Task A Day, The Men's Group, Healthy Caregiver and several others.  I am also the moderator for the Caregiving.com Quiz Show and have a seat on the bi-monthly Hot Topic's show. I'm here to not only improve Roberts life, the lives of those I touch on caregiving.com and pickyourpain.org but to find a way to improve my own live.

5 thoughts on “Mom’s One Month Anniversary Appointment

  1. Avatar of JanetJanet

    I am glad your mom is doing well. My mom fell two weeks ago with both knee replacement and both hips replacements, when she fell she hit the bed. We had two X-ray right after she had fallen but didn’t see anything, so they send her back home, she can’t put any weight on it. My hubby now have to lift her from once chair to another or bed. Taking a shower is chore all by itself. She is 89 years old and was very active up till 2 years ago, she was a nurse and could do circle around all of us. She is very small 105 lb on a good day.
    We have finally surrend and is having home care come in today to help us. I enjoy reading your articles, as you can tell I am not much of a writer but I am trying.

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  2. Richard (Kreisler)

    Janet,
    Your writing is fine, not to worry. The lady in the bed next to mom is 84, same femur break as mom and she has a “No Weight” requirement for 8-10 weeks where as mom is only 4weeks. Moms total recovery is estimated to be 4-41/2 months, her’s is at 8-10 month. Goes to show you how age, drive and the mental factor go into ones recovery and how an injury affects each of us differently. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my blogs.

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  3. Cathy Mitchell

    Richard, what wonderful news about your mother. It is a long haul but it seems that she is reaping unexpected benefits. I really like her “another step” list. What a positive spin she has put on it. I am coming to believe that having a set schedule, even without dementia, is a big factor in wellness. So glad you shared your mother’s progress.

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  4. Avatar of janjan

    Thanks for keeping us updated, Richard, on your mom’s progress. A lesser person could slip on a grape, break her leg, and let the bitterness keep her from going on with life, but that isn’t the case for you or your mom. It looks like quite a challenge to be involved in the minutia of her care and not getting swallowed up, but you are succeeding.

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  5. Avatar of RichardRichard Post author

    Jan,
    I’m seeing it as, what a story for her great grand kids. “I remember when your GGM fell and broke her leg, on a grape.” I can hear the laughter now, so can mom when we talk about it. Like my saying goes, “Pain without humor is just painful.” Thanks for reading and responding to one of my blogs. I look forward to you future comments. Have a great weekend.

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