(Editor’s Note: We welcome Bootsie, who cares for her mom, to our blogging team tonight. You can connect with her on her profile page: @bootsie.)
So the story is too long to tell and it involves social media of all things but I am in touch with a caring, competent, understanding Angel. I have her name and contact information and she is walking me through the steps to get my mom approved for Medicaid in my state.
My mom’s financial situation is not good at all and she is the main reason for that. In order to bail out her children she put herself in deep debt and was borrowing from other family members even behind my back since I have been caring for her. She was low income to begin with and was borrowing and spending or as I say “robbing Peter to pay Paul”. When she came back to stay with me after three weeks back at her house, eight-day hospital stay, and 20 days in SNF (skilled nursing facility), I told her she could only return if she let me take over her finances, stop the borrowing and sell her home to pay off loans.
She had been staying with us for over a year at this point. I was embarrassed that we were caring for her yet she was borrowing money to keep her head afloat. I am still harboring bad feelings toward a sibling who was aiding and abetting this behavior. I am also angry with her that all of this mess was going to be dumped in my lap when she dies.
So now family members are surviving without borrowing from her, she is no longer borrowing from other family members, house is for sale, a little cash was raised by selling off some old insurance policies and I have learned so much during this process. This is by far the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with but I am determined to see it through until the end.
My lifesavers are my neighbor who listens to me vent, a realtor I found online, a politician running for office who helped connect me to my Angel and my awesome husband who keeps me sane!