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Simplify When you’re nice, you don’t have to apologize By Denise M. Brown I often encounter people who, well for lack of a better description, I found appalling in their behavior. So, as I interact with these people, I have a smile on my face, all the while thinking: What an idiot! You know what I mean: Your co-worker who insists it's a very bad day when she breaks a nail (you'd like to tell her about bad days!); the sibling who insists she's too busy to help out (but you don't have a life?, you want to scream at her!); the friend who insists you'd all be better off if you would just ship your mother to a nursing home (you'd like to ship her somewhere!). We all know "idiots", people who are insensitive, selfish, mean-spirited, manipulating. In order to make it through life, we have to learn to get along with the "idiots". Here's my philosophy about encounters with them, which I learned the hard way: I am always pleasant and kind. I efficiently cut the encounter short, but always with good manners. My reason: I never want to waste my time apologizing to an "idiot" for my bad behavior. So, I'm always nice, but always remove myself immediately if an encounter becomes insulting or inappropriate. I've found I'm much better to manage these type of people, who sometimes seem to overrun society. And, in managing these encounters better, I have more time to be with the truly kind and fun family members, friends and colleagues I have. “No” as an agent to prioritize and to reassess Add easy techniques to hands-on care Simplify communication to avoid stress, guilt When you’re nice, you don’t have to apologize A family caregiver's thoughts: Streamlining to make life more comfortable |
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