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  • I suppose I’m grateful for someone near getting sleep, even if it seems to be excessive. Because that’s less time focusing on the hurts.

  • Linda and Profile picture of MissAngieMissAngie are now friends 33 minutes ago

  • I am thankful for my new job.

  • Denise posted an update 58 minutes ago

    @angelaholmes and @goinhome Great to connect with you both in tonight’s chat!

  • I am grateful for the slightly (and I mine slightly) cooler weather :)

  • ThumbnailMy disabled sister has recovered from septic shock (and the negligent nursing home fiasco) and is ready for discharge from the hospital. They have said she needs assisted living not skilled care. Here we go again. […]

  • Denise replied to the topic October Activity in the forum Group logo of Fit Family CaregiversVRide 5 hours, 10 minutes ago

    Okay–I’m back on track.

    October 12: Rode my bike for 50 minutes.
    October 18: Did my 40-minute Pilates DVD.
    October 19: Rode my bike for 50 minutes.
    October 20: Did my 40-minute Pilates DVD and took a 2-mile walk.

  • October 11:
    1. Got the house in order.
    2. Got a lot of work done.
    3. Went to bed early. (This early to bed is just awesome.)

    October 12:
    1. Had a great #carechat.
    2. A very productive day.
    3. Took a moment to relax.

    October 13:
    1. Received an unexpected gift of time.
    2. Enjoyed coffee at Panera–which I love.
    3. Had a good time with 6-year-old…[Read more]

  • ThumbnailI know it’s still in there because I’m not dragging it behind me. I didn’t lose it.

    The stress of the days makes me wonder what happened to my mind. It’s in there but it’s like it just stopped. Because I can’t […]

  • ThumbnailWe celebrate you in November, which is National Family Caregivers Month.

    We’ve got contests and special events planned throughout the month, including:

    Every Sunday, from 9 p.m. ET until 11 p.m. ET: Open […]

  • ThumbnailA Caregiving Craft Show, a fair that features your handiwork in our Directory, will take place Saturday, November 29.

    You can sell anything you make or create or put together, whether it be what you paint, sew […]

  • ThumbnailWhat’s in your caregiving closet that you no longer use? No longer need? Do you wonder what in the world to do with those books, CDs, supplies, equipment, gadgets?

    Sell them in a Caregiving Garage […]

  • @jwillis676 Hi Janet! I’ve been thinking of you!! I hope all is okay. :)

  • @worriedwife and @hussy When you guys have a chance, would you connect with @ohlordyp, who just joined us? Thanks so much!!

  • Priscilla became a registered member 10 hours, 38 minutes ago

  • Thumbnail(Editor’s Note: Today, we welcome Ray, who cares for his brother, to our blogging team. You can connect with Ray on his profile page: @rjrsm.)

    I’m new to this site, but not to the issue of caregiving. I’m one […]

    • Welcome, Ray, and wow — that’s just it, isn’t it? When I was a caregiver for my mother, I heard (constantly) what a “wonderful,” “caring,” and “responsible” daughter I was. In fact, I heard that comment again today, four and one-half months after my mother’s death. In my case, I didn’t feel noble nor honorable. I wasn’t always the “good…[Read more]

    • Hi Ray–I’m so glad you are blogging!

      I think it’s so hard when we hit the limits of ourselves, of our carees and of life. And, somehow we take on these limits as our failures when they truly aren’t.

      I know the future feels incredibly uncertain. I wonder if it would help to focus on taking it one day at a time, which helps you tackle the…[Read more]

    • Hi Ray,
      It seems that the universal feeling of caregivers is guilt! At least part of the time, if not an ongoing struggle to quench it.

      I’m wondering how old is your brother? Is he social? Does he like being around other people? Has he ever lived anywhere besides the family home? When I was a kid I vowed to bring my brother to live with me…[Read more]

      • Jean replied 5 hours ago

        that was supposed to be quelch not quench… down auto correct.

    • I want to thank those who replied to my post for the thoughtful suggestions and comments. It does help to see there are others out there who share a sensitivity to care givers.

      I chose to keep my brother at home after our mother passed because of his age (59) and traumatizing him with another life changeing event – another home. Fortunately, I…[Read more]

    • Hi Ray–I’m soooo glad to hear about your good day. It’s so hard to find that sweet spot of how much you help and when you step back. It certainly is a work in progress.

      Learning about unconditional love from your brother is such a gift. I think that’s one thing that others often don’t understand about caregiving. Sure, we give. But, we also…[Read more]

      • Denise…If there is any one BIG blessing in caregiving that I have received, it’s the exchange of unconditional love. When both of my parents came home with hospice, I made the decision I wanted to do all I could for as long as I could. I wanted no regrets. The experience of being with first my father and then my mother as their life faded away…[Read more]

  • Thumbnail60 Minutes aired an incredible segment last night. (Read about and watch the segment, Ending Life.)

    Barbara Mancini, a nurse, cared for her 93-year-old father in his home. During his life’s last years, her […]

    • Spike and I endured a similar experience when he claimed asylum at hospital B from hospital A for bad treatment (a gross understatement). I had so much mistrust for the system and having been escorted by security at B…I didn’t trust that A would help. While sick he had to do it himself. While it was not death…unlike the story noted…[Read more]

    • Since my days in the seminary, I have had a change of opinion on the subject of assisted suicide. My seminary training taught me that suicide was a sin and assisted suicide is murder, somewhere along those fine lines in Church teaching, lies the debate on abortion too. Oh-Boy, how my opinion has changed over the years!

      After watching, caring…[Read more]

    • I was flabbergasted at what Barbara Mancini went through with her father. And her poor father fearing what was happening to his daughter as he was dying.

      I have always said I do not want to live with dementia. I wouldn’t want any life saving drugs or other medical measures if my quality of life was nil. But even with an advanced directive, who…[Read more]

  • Today I’m grateful for hope, an emotion that can be so elusive when caregiving.

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