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A New Bloom


Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant. ~ Robert Louis Stevenson I have never considered myself to have a green thumb and until recently, quite frankly, always found gardening a little boring. (Well, not as boring as fishing, but that is for another conversation!) However, over the past year, I have acquired a few plants and have become fascinated by their growth, their response to water ...

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Sink or Swim


I haven’t posted anything in quite a while. Mostly I just haven’t had much to say but lately I’m a little panicked and thinking that maybe writing will help. John had to go back to hemodialysis. He’s doing it at home and I’m  learning to be the caregiver for it. I wasn’t really prepared for this. When we first started talking about it, nobody told me just how much responsibility I would have in this. ...

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Day By Day: Grieving and Healing


Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn. ~ C. S. Lewis. Coupled with the fact that I’ve missed my extended family at, finding the energy to blog on has been difficult for me these past few months. Let’s face it, grieving can be a full-time ‘job’ which takes quite a bit of energy. But grieving can be healthy too. Today I experienced a form of healthy grieving by visiting ...

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I Do Like to Eat


As I write this, I am sitting in the vascular surgeon’s office waiting for John to be dismissed. Today he had vein mapping in preparation fir a fistula next month. The surgeon warned that he “might have to get creative” before this appointment and I sense that’s the case. There is a follow up in two weeks to review optiomns after he gas time to “think about it.” Sounds like complications to me. Apparently,  his ...

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Woo Hoo, Vacation!


There hasn’t been much to report on from me lately. The most exciting thing for me is that I’m on vacation. I had hoped we’d be able to go to Key West and spend some time this year but we’re in the coverage gap and the money just isn’t there so this will be a staycation. John has to see his vascular surgeon Wednesday anyway so even if we’d had the cash, health comes first. ...

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Weekend Update


Friday night. Summer has arrived in Savannah. The humidity is already oppressive but I do so love it here. Sometimes I wonder though, was Savannah a wise choice? For those who may read and not know our story,  my partner is doing peritoneal dialysis and waiting on a kidney and pancreas transplant. Our transplant center is four hours away in Atlanta. I question the quality of local medical care. I do not however, question the ...

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Kentucky Bourbon Cupcakes


Tomorrow I have a meeting in D.C.  John will be home by himself for a few days while I am away. We’ve done this before, even since he started dialysis but this time really worries me. He hasn’t been doing so great lately. We were told this week that he he may have to go back on hemo dialysis. PD isn’t doing it’s job. Currently, he is doing nine hours at night and two manual ...

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Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives


It feels like forever since I wrote my first blog  entry.  In that entry, I talked about an upcoming trip to the Capitol and our possible plans for John to join me.  Plans have changed and now I will only be gone for 2 nights so he won’t come along this time but we’re going to try to plan a few days away this summer.  I am conflicted about taking this trip.  On the one ...

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What Do You Say in a First Blog Post?


(Editor’s Note: Today, we welcome Michael to our blogging team. You can connect with him on his profile page: @outbythesea.) This is my first post. It’s funny sitting down to write. Suddenly, I don’t know what to write about so I’ll just see where this takes me. About my partner and I: John and I met the weekend before Thanksgiving 15 years ago at a happy hour in Atlanta. I joke and tell people that ...

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Everlasting Love: TLO Is at Rest and at Peace


Love is the beauty of the soul. ~ Saint Augustine Bernard Richard Schiffer: January 24, 1931 ~ March 9, 2014 The house is quiet, so different, so empty. The beautiful aroma of the stargazer lilies fills the house, as one by one, they bloom in their mystical way. Just as the lilies transition from a small bud to a beautiful flower, TLO’s transition into eternal life was just as mystical and just as beautiful. Holding him in ...

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