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Donna W writes about caring for her mom.

Tips For Family and Friends of Caregivers

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Earlier this year, I wrote a blog post called, Invisible People. It addressed how caregivers are seldom, seen…heard from…or thought about. On my blogtalkradio show last week, I talked about this and I included some suggestions for non-caregivers of special things both large and small, that they could do for caregivers to make their day better and let them know they are not invisible. So, I would like to share these suggestions with all of ...

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Concluding Replacement Therapy, Finally!

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11-15-10  Time to finish this blog post!  I have been at this one since August! Have I come to a conclusion, no…do I have a plan set up for replacing all the time and activities of caring for mom when she was here, no….has these past months been therapeutic in anyway, no. So, the purpose of this post?  Apparently it has none, or maybe this is just the result of all the thoughts, and non-moments ...

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And Mom Was Always There

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In my crib, alone at night… wind blowing the curtains, the closet door a fright… Thinking I was all alone, calling out in childish terror… And mom was always there. So many days and nights of illness, bedbound in my early years… Always needing special care… And mom was always there. Traveling across the country, paper bags carried with her… For those unpleasant moments of motion sickness… Wish we had gone by air! And Mom ...

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Rocks And Sticks On The Path

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I am upset, surprisingly and not so surprisingly, very upset. The sad thing is, the only ones who will understand why, are other caregivers, or ex-caregivers. It appears I made a mistake at something I posted online, and it upset the individual it was directed to, which was not my intention. The whole situation came back at me, and I broke down. I realized the request and comment I had made was not inappropriate at ...

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Adult Orphans

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I  posted this on a forum I found the other morning, it was in response to the topic of  caregivers, who have lost both their parents, and now feel like adult orphans. My father passed away in 1969, I was 17. For the past 4 1/2 years, I was my mom’s full-time caregiver as she advanced through the stages of dementia. She passed away the 16th of last month. It is a peculiar feeling to ...

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Sunday at Home…..9-12-10

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Isolation and loneliness just don’t seem to get eradicated; they even intensify in some instances, once your caree is gone. There is even a greater sense of being abandoned. I talked about on my radio show how I didn’t belong anywhere as a caregiver before I got involved with caregiving.com. Now that I am no longer a caregiver that sense of not belonging is again plaguing me. If I am not able to leave the ...

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Just Me…..

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The memorial card I made on Printmaster, the smaller photo card was done through Kodak and inserted in the large card.  I also made photo booklets from hotprints.  If you go on my facebook page, the book is on there and you can look through it.  Only closer family and friends receive the photo books, most receive the memorial card and photo card.  Just thought you all would like to see the memorial tributes I ...

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Replacement Therapy

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Ok, I need everyone’s help here.  I am writing a piece called Replacement Therapy.  I am looking for ideas of what to do to replace all the things I have done for mom these past years, fill those time slots with instructive, creative, supportive alternatives. Remember, there are emotional connections worked in there, habits of doing specific things at specific times. Restrictions of freedom that have to be broken through. So, anyhow, shoot me some ...

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Waiting…

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I have been posting updates all over, and want to let all of you know who don’t know already.  Mom stopped eating on Friday.  So, we are on a watch.  She is resting comfortably and is peaceful.  It is time.  Goodbyes are being said and soon she will be with Dad and my sisters again. I will still be blogging and still continuing with the blogtalkradio show.  I must keep going with all that has ...

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Coherent

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“To have clarity or intelligibility…understandable”   Coherent. This morning when I went in to get mom ready for the morning, she was motioning at me and so I moved closer, turning.  She fussed with the hem of my shirt which must have been “not perfect” according to her way of seeing things.  I looked at her and chuckled and said thank you and continued on about the business at hand.  I looked at her again, ...

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