Mom’s memorial service is this weekend, and my mom’s pastor who’s known her forever asked me to tell him more about her so he can get a greater sense of who she was with family. Hmmm. Ordinary request, ya? How do I tell him….Do I even bother to tell him—what she was really like? How [...]
Back to life… Back to reality…I bet you didn’t know who sang those lyrics, but you had heard the song. Yes? It was Soul II Soul. Not that it matters! So–I am sure you have felt those sentiments. After a vacation, back to work on a Monday morning. Usually it’s a bittersweet thing. You may [...]
On Sunday evening, around 8:45 pm, I was holding her hand, telling her how much everyone loved her, saying the Lord’s prayer as she took her last breaths. She was in her (our) home, and she had received medication to relieve pain and anxiety. She had a heart attack, after a long stay in the [...]
Hi everyone– I think I’ve just been entered into the Caregiving Olympics. Not as the speed skater or some other super onerous endurance event, but maybe more like curling? Curling is more lightweight, more bizarre. Dunno. My mom is now in Hospice. In my home. With me as the primary caregiver. !!! I have been [...]
My friend Ben always asks this question in jest, and it’s hilarious when he says it. When I’m just fried like a hot potato, I like to make myself laugh, thinking of Ben saying this. But, seriously, today, WTF!!! Mom is still in ICU, on and off the non-invasive ventilator, having gotten off the ‘tubes’ [...]
Not a person? (For anyone of color, please forgive the slavery reference if it is a difficult subject, tho, remember, human slavery has happened throughout history in many cultures and still goes on today, even in the United States…abjectly horrifying) (For anyone else who may just generally be offended by my comparing Caregiving to slavery, [...]
Everyone – OK–I need your help–please read this description of my mom’s condition and help me answer the questions at the end: My mom’s cognition has rapidly changed for the worst since March 25th, and she has been completely and totally incontinent since May 19th. I’ve visited her family doc and her geriatric psychiatrist, and [...]
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My mom was diagnosed with Dementia today. (Actually yesterday, it’s now the middle of the night, and I’ve had insomnia for 2 days) From what I can tell, she’s in the mild to moderate stages. We are going to see her Geriatric Psychiatrist later today for next steps. I guess she has Functional Incontinence. That’s [...]
Hi y’all– Oh, wow, it’s been so much to learn about verbal and emotional abuse. I have a million thoughts at the same time. It’s hard to verbalize coherently. It has so many implications, and I hope to be able to clearly articulate it all at some point. In the meantime–wow, what a torrent, OF [...]
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