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The New York Times published an interesting article last night (“Go Easy on Yourself, A New Wave of Research Shows”). Author Tara Parker-Pope writes that we need more self-compassion, not discipline and will power:
“…Research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion...
I had a co-worker who suffered a miscarriage when she was 11-weeks pregnant. A second miscarriage happened very early in her next pregnancy. About 18 months after giving birth to a healthy girl, she suffered a third miscarriage at just about 12 weeks. All this happened within a four-year time frame.
When she told me about her third miscarriage, I think I was more upset than she. I’m okay, she told me....
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Denise on Aug 12th, 2009 in
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The Alzheimer’s Daily News included a link to the video, below, in today’s briefings. It’s a short, foreign film (with sub-titles) that reminds us to love, especially during those moments when we don’t think we can.
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Denise on Aug 10th, 2009 in
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I’ve been doing my best to reduce my carbon footprint. The footprint I want to leave in world is not one that slogs through a landfill.
Which makes me wonder:
What footprint would you like to leave behind after your caregiving role ends?
Your footprint could be the calming words a friend told you during a difficult day. Or, an understanding about how relationships worked that kept...
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Denise on Jul 26th, 2009 in
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A new member of one of our online support groups recently wrote me with an interesting thought. “I think caregiving deserves its own diagnosis,” she said.
Hmm… So, I asked Donna, who has a M.S. in counseling and cares for her mother, to expand on her idea. My questions and her answers follow.
Caregiving: Do you remember inspiration for the idea of caregiving as a mental health...
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Denise on Jul 15th, 2009 in
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I believe it’s important to encourage family caregivers to recognize and celebrate their successes as a caregiver. I often hear from family caregivers: How can I be successful if every decision I make seems to make my relative absolutely miserable?
I’m reminded of conversation many years ago with Mirca Liberti, co-founder of Children of Aging Parents, Levittown, Pa.. During our discussion, Mirca made,...
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Arrive everywhere loved.
–Mariah, wife of Ron Gladis, one of our 2009 Caregiver of the Year award winners
You probably have heard the expression: “You have to feel it to heal it.”
That, often, is easier said than done.
To feel our shame, we must feel safe. We might find that safety in a support group, in our journal or with a therapist or counselor (or all three). Whatever...
(Editor’s Note: This is the second part of a three-part series on shame and its role in your caregiving experience. In our second part, we take a look at how shame enters a caregiving situation.)
When I think of how shame can come to a caregiving role, I think of Jeannette, a woman I helped care for about 10 years ago. Because I haven’t had the personal experience of caregiving, I’ve taken on hired caregiving...
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(Editor’s Note: This is the first part of a three-part series on shame and its role in your caregiving experience. In our first part, we look at the origins of shame.)
For you, it may have started with a comment or remark or a look. “Typically children are shamed when they wet their bed, get a bad grade on a test, are picked last for a team, or have an awkward physical...
