In this group, we share tips on how to use CareGiving.com.
I was just thinking how wonderful it is to have a safe, welcoming site to be able to express your hopes and your fears with many long distance friends who support and help you along this journey. So, I’m feeling grateful to be here among all of you.
@wildflowermama Just stopping in to say hello! I also care for a chronically ill daughter (she is 6 yo now and relatively healthy, but will have health issues for the rest of her life) and help care for my mom (mostly on weekends right now, but during summer will be more often). Welcome to the group. I’ve been a bit inactive, but saw your…[Read more]
Hi. I am back after a long absence. To reintroduce myself, I am caregiver for my friend who was my boyfriend for 14 years. He was diagnosed with Alzheimers and metastatic kidney cancer about 2 years ago. I tried caring for him in my home, but it got too difficult for me. I work to support myself full time, and had hired a caregiver while I was…[Read more]
I’m so glad to hear from you but so sorry for all that’s happened.
I’m wondering about a facility that will kick out of resident if they go on Medicaid. Could you tell us a little more about that?
You can hire someone to hold an…[Read more]
Hi @louangel — man, you are carrying a heavy load. While I would normally suggest that you take your time and sell things for what they’re really worth (an auction house will give you only a percentage on a dollar), I can see where you want to clear things out as quickly as possible. I’m with @denise on this one — get rid of as much as you can…[Read more]
You sound like a very caring person. And sometimes very caring people are looking to avoid hurting other people’s feelings or avoid feeling hurt feelings themselves.
When my son died at age twelve, as soon as my husband and I returned home from burying him in another state, I almost immediately got rid of his things. This was hard…[Read more]
As the roller coaster of Caregiving continues, hubby finally had a good day at dialysis! Came home and wanted to go out for dinner, so we did. After the sadness of Friday and him canceling all plans because of bad mood and health day, it was such a pleasant surprise.
It has been a reflective week here. We attended a memorial service held at Tufts University by the medical and dental students to honor and thank those families whose loved ones donated their bodies so that the students could learn from them. A moving ceremony for all of us. Hubby, myself and our two children attended along with hundreds of…[Read more]
My husband told me he would like to do this when his time comes. We live about 90 minutes away from Tufts. I would like to learn more about this program.
Hey Hussey, thanks for the comment. Email me any time about this. I would be happy to talk to you. You can also look up Tufts Anatomical Gift Program on the internet and it will give you more information. They are really nice there and at UMass here in Worcester where I signed up my dad. I just blogged about the experience so you can read a little…[Read more]
I am tired, really tired. My 89-year-old mom is slowly declining, cognitively and physically, and it’s sad to see. We now have to cope with pressure sores because she doesn’t get out of bed as often. I’m also dealing with my 87-year-old aunt’s continued foot-dragging on getting her papers together and finding a home for her 64-year-old…[Read more]
My mother’s female caregiver told me today that she won’t be coming back because of continued ill treatment at the hands of my mom’s goddaughter. I am SO upset! My mom loves and trusts G* and feels comfortable with her. I was just starting to feel like I could concentrate on getting my aunt’s situation in order (along with her schizophrenic son)…[Read more]
OOOHHH!! Oh, my gosh, what an upsetting situation. Was the caregiver able to share specific examples? Any chance she’ll give you time to sort through the situation? What a nightmare. Ugh.
Is this the first you are hearing of the problem or has it been ongoing? Is there any way to speak with the goddaughter and let her know how her behavior is having negative consequences for her godmother? How extremely frustrating.
I am still here, I have been think there are groups you hope you never have to joined: breast cancer support, caregiving support gro and grief support group. All three groups help me in their own separate way. I am trying to get my life back on track. I have been very luckly that mom has been doing well. Me on tne other hot to good, have taken…[Read more]
My buddy came home from the nursing home this past week. He’s had stomach problems for the past day which stinks,but he’s getting around OK and keeping hydrated. This was rather sudden but we’re coping ok, which I can live with
Sorry haven’t bren around much, mom has had to care for me this past week. The stress has finally gotten to me. Beside being down to 98 lb, I got a UTI this week which end me in the hospital for couple hours to rehydrate me. First time I was super glad my sister in law live so close.
My buddy is back in the nursing home/rehab. He basically understands why he needs to be there, which is a huge improvement from last week when he was pulling his IVs out.
Hi all. So my buddy’s doctor called and said he’d been asking when I was coming to visit. Right away, I said.
He was glad to see me, and we had supper together. I feel so relieved!
My buddy, who I’ve been helping since his stroke almost 6 years ago hit a very rough patch right before Christmas when he broke his leg. At the time he fell,he was also in kidney failure.
Since then he’s been bouncing between the hospital and a nursing home.
In recent times days I seem to have become the face of everything thats wrong in the…[Read more]
Oh, gosh, Steve, you’ve been through the ringer! I’m glad to see you but so sorry for all you’re been through. I wonder if @pushingpetals @keeppassingtheopenwindows @parkscoleman @janshriver and @lillie can share some helpful thoughts.
Perhaps you could call the charge nurse in the hospital for updates but keep your distance for a few days.…[Read more]
I’m keeping a low profile. I Expect to hear from the case Mgr before too long. In the meantime, I’m getting some long overdue house workdone!
Great idea! He’s in good hands so you can focus on the house. I always feel better when the house is clean.
I certainly agree with Denise. There comes a time when other people with a more clinical view can accomplish something new and helpful. You are doing the best thing as far as I can see. Allowing yourself some space will help him the most in the long run, anyway.
I, too agree with Denise and Jan. He is in good hands and it is a good time to take a little time to breathe and focus on something else, get some distance and clear your head. In my own experiences, sometimes a little space has worked very well for me in similar situations, especially when my mom/dad was in good hands with hospital or nursing…[Read more]
Thank you for the reply. You neatly summarized my experience.
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