@deniseactive 4 hours, 46 minutes ago
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- Aug 27, 2015 at 1:33 pm #85714
Actually I’m more upset with my sister than my mom. My siblings have been complaining to me about the doctor. I get it–I have concerns, too. I’ve been doing my best to get my parents to switch. On Monday afternoon, when I updated my sister about all I had done to my mom to consider changing, my sister emphatically said, “She needs a new doctor!” Great!
And, then, for whatever reason, she just allows my mom to decide not to switch. My mom told her she didn’t want to switch mid-stream. My sister just accepted that! When I went back yesterday and my mom told me that same mid-stream argument, I addressed that concern. She can switch again! “Oh, I didn’t think of it that way,” my mom said. “That will work.”
I’m just incredibly frustrated with my sister!
- Aug 27, 2015 at 9:00 am #85696
- Aug 27, 2015 at 5:29 am #85686
The nurse practitioner is on site Monday through Friday. I did introduce my mom to the nurse practitioner yesterday as well.
- Aug 27, 2015 at 5:28 am #85685
Yes, there’s a medical director who has a nurse practitioner on staff.
Once we returned from the hospital on Monday, I met with the nurse practitioner, found out more about the medical director. I explained the option to switch to my mom, asked her to think about it overnight and then talk it out with my sister, due to visit on Tuesday. I was out of town on Tuesday giving two presentations.
I talked it out with my dad on Monday night and finally convinced him she needs someone who can immediately respond to her urgent needs. He finally saw the light. I explained everything to my sister, who said she was completely on board with the doctor change.
Well, I don’t know what happened during my sister’s visit on Tuesday because my mom decided not to change.
So, I went through it again with my mom yesterday, explaining she can switch while she’s at the facility and then switch again to another doctor (a woman) when she’s discharged. I called the medical director, left a message, got the paperwork we need to make a switch.
I had a 4 p.m. meeting with a client so I ran out of time yesterday afternoon.
I’m taking my dad to the hospital this morning for his procedure to remove the skin cancer on his head and neck. The visiting nurse will be here between Noon and 1 to make sure my dad is okay. After she leaves, I’ll go back to the nursing home and make the doctor switch.
- Aug 15, 2015 at 9:52 am #85330
That is beautiful.
- Aug 11, 2015 at 5:38 pm #85270
That totally makes sense.
I think it kinda feels like you’re killing his dream of finding love again. It’s such a horrible feeling. It’s tough–you want to protect him but you also want him to be happy as he pursues what will make him happy. Can both happen–his safety as his pursues a dream?
If you haven’t already, would it help to share your concerns with him? Say something like, “I so want you to be happy. I just worry about predators online who want to take advantage of you.”
- Aug 11, 2015 at 9:07 am #85239
Oh, that’s a good idea @hussy. Obviously, he’s an easy prey to the wackos.
I’m always amazed at how much we do to ensure our caree’s safety and well-being only to face a problem we never, ever considered. It really can be a test of patience.
I wonder if you could replace his “dating” time with activities that will keep him occupied without putting him in unsafe situations. Does he play games at all? I wonder if you could find a site where he could play games (like Solitaire).
Do you guys have any help?
- Aug 10, 2015 at 2:29 pm #85232
Oh, gosh, @thatloveofours, we totally understand! We all have days when we just can’t see the light. Please know that we hope you will continue to share with us when those dark days happen. We all have them.
The good news is that those dark days end. I think that’s the hardest part of those dark days–they just seem never ending. And, there’s nothing like the cure called sleep.
So, we love to hear about your good days, too.
And, you are absolutely right–no one understands unless they are in a similar situation. We’ve all had to let go of friends who simply don’t get it.
So, no worries! I love that you started this discussion.
- Aug 8, 2015 at 8:46 am #85114
- Aug 7, 2015 at 5:58 pm #85100
Hi @thatloveofours! I am so glad you are here and so glad you posted this question. I was following your comments and thought, I think it would be great to ask a question just like the question you posted.
I know other members will weigh in and share their thoughts.
I hope you will consider blogging. I know it seems like it won’t help but I just find it incredibly helpful to write out what weighs me down.
I’m looking forward to getting to know you better.
- Jul 27, 2015 at 2:10 pm #84667
I’m so glad you asked this question!
I look forward to the responses.
- Jul 21, 2015 at 7:12 pm #84420
- Aug 27, 2015 at 7:53 pm #85726
- Aug 27, 2015 at 9:58 am #85700
- Aug 5, 2015 at 7:21 am #84977
Hi Karin–It’s sooo good to meet you. If you’re up for it, please think about blogging. I find it so helpful–I’m writing out and releasing the worries, the doubts, the fears. If you need any help getting started, just let me know.
You’ll find instructions here: http://www.caregiving.com/groups/general/forum/