@kayepeanycactive 1 day, 20 hours ago
Going today to look at an assisted living facility not too far from my home. Not sure I want to move my mom at all, but I want to know what’s available before I might need it. I’m also looking for possible places for my aunt. She’s in her own home now, also, but her eyesight has deteriorated further due to glaucoma.
My 89-y.o. mom is always asking the day, the date, and the time. I found this big display LED clock for $90, that’s been placed right next to her TV. Here’s the link to the Big Time site:
Mom fell, spent Monday in the ER for more than 12 hours. Nothing broken, but she was really disoriented and confused. Since then, have stayed overnight at my mom’s several times, but this can’t work long-term. Looking for home health care for overnight. Now must review her finances and find someone to augment the 2 aides currently doing daytime…[Read more]
My mom is slipping away, slowly.
I am tired, really tired. My 89-year-old mom is slowly declining, cognitively and physically, and it’s sad to see. We now have to cope with pressure sores because she doesn’t get out of bed as often. I’m also dealing with my 87-year-old aunt’s continued foot-dragging on getting her papers together and finding a home for her 64-year-old…[Read more]
MimbyNYC commented on the post, In Six Words, What Don’t Others Understand About Caregiving? 4 weeks ago
I rediscover my limits daily.
My mother’s female caregiver told me today that she won’t be coming back because of continued ill treatment at the hands of my mom’s goddaughter. I am SO upset! My mom loves and trusts G* and feels comfortable with her. I was just starting to feel like I could concentrate on getting my aunt’s situation in order (along with her schizophrenic son)…[Read more]
OOOHHH!! Oh, my gosh, what an upsetting situation. Was the caregiver able to share specific examples? Any chance she’ll give you time to sort through the situation? What a nightmare. Ugh.
Is this the first you are hearing of the problem or has it been ongoing? Is there any way to speak with the goddaughter and let her know how her behavior is having negative consequences for her godmother? How extremely frustrating.
MimbyNYC commented on the post, In Six Words, What Does Caregiving Steal from You? 4 months, 2 weeks ago
The illusion of perfect life balance
Juggling all the parts of my life–caregiving, new boss and construction at work, repairs at my mom’s house, arranging for my mom’s car repair, and, oh yeah, getting ready for knee surgery next week, cleaning my home–it’s totally exhausting. Making the holiday for my mom and other family members is a nice idea, and much appreciated, but I realize…[Read more]
My mom turned 89 this week. She was tired during the day, but perked up to have pizza and cupcakes with my sister, who’d surprised her with a visit from LA, her god daughter, my partner Jen, and me. She opened her presents–pj’s, flowers, and candy–joined in the conversations, and laughed.
It’s Sunday night and I’m looking through the tasks for next week. I categorize them as My Life, Mom/Aunt/Other, Work. I try to only schedule 3 things each day, otherwise I get totally overwhelmed.
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