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MimbyNYC commented on the post, In Six Words, What Does Caregiving Steal from You? 3 weeks, 3 days ago
The illusion of perfect life balance
Juggling all the parts of my life–caregiving, new boss and construction at work, repairs at my mom’s house, arranging for my mom’s car repair, and, oh yeah, getting ready for knee surgery next week, cleaning my home–it’s totally exhausting. Making the holiday for my mom and other family members is a nice idea, and much appreciated, but I realize…[Read more]
My mom turned 89 this week. She was tired during the day, but perked up to have pizza and cupcakes with my sister, who’d surprised her with a visit from LA, her god daughter, my partner Jen, and me. She opened her presents–pj’s, flowers, and candy–joined in the conversations, and laughed.
It’s Sunday night and I’m looking through the tasks for next week. I categorize them as My Life, Mom/Aunt/Other, Work. I try to only schedule 3 things each day, otherwise I get totally overwhelmed.
It’s great to see you, @kayepeanyc!! Thank you so much for your vote!!
Wow! I can finally log into my account again. It’s been on-and-off for a while now. I’m on vacation on the Oregon coast with my family. As you can imagine, it took a lot of planning. Just shows me that we’ve got to make clearer plans on what we’ll do if there’s an emergency with any of our carees.
I’m exhausted. My manager, relocated to the Pacific Northwest. I miss her a lot. She always had my back and kept the crazy, demanding people at bay so I could actually do my work. Now I have an interim manager and I don’t feel like having to prove myself to yet another person yet again. And there’s my mom. It’s really difficult at times to see her…[Read more]
I was so happy to see you Kathleen! I read your note on Sunday evening–I’m sorry I’m slow to reply.
The declines are so tough, aren’t they? How is your aunt?
It must be so heartbreaking to feel helpless as to how to help your daughter. You must just worry so.
Keep us posted as you can. If you ever want to start blogging, go for it!
It’s been a busy time with work and family. We’ve decided that my mom needs to move out of her house and into either an apartment or assisted living. My sister is visiting for the holidays, and I’ve been feeling defensive about some of the things she’s pointed out that need attention.. Not that she’s accusing me of negligence, but I…[Read more]
MimbyNYC commented on the post, Which Gifts Should be Under Every Family Caregiver’s Tree? 1 year, 1 month ago
There are two gifts I’d love. One would be spending an afternoon with me to sort through my mom’s jewelry and photograph those pieces she wants to give away after she’s gone. The other is an offer to take care of […]
Thanksgiving did not go as planned, but we handled the changes as best we could. I injured my on Wednesday and had to go to an urgent care facility to get it x-rayed, etc. Not sure what’s wrong, but I’m now […]
I just spent 15 minutes (mostly on hold) with my mom’s bank, trying to find out why one of her accounts is not showing up on the Web. I was told that I do not have power of attorney over her Web account! What kind of madness is this! My sister, mother, and I have signed so many forms in the past few years I cannot believe that I have to now go…[Read more]
Mom & I Skyped with my sister last night, talking about the possibility of my mom leaving her home to live closer to me and my partner. An intense discussion, made more difficult by my mom’s short-term memory loss. But brief notes written in large letters on day-glo orange paper helped quite a bit. Her willingness to consider moving was helped…[Read more]
Wow. So much for all of you. I love that you had a Skype call to talk it out with everyone. I think it’s awesome that you created adjustments so your mom could participate in the conversation. You’re all of this right. It’s just hard. I’m thinking of you.
Thanks, Denise. My ingenuity and patience are constantly being tested. And it’s difficult to see woman becoming so frail. But she can still be crusty and hard to get along with, so her spirit’s intact!
Looking to move my mom out of her house with 3 floors and an attic, into a place on one floor, closer to us. She’s alone at night and feeling lonely. Not sure the best route to take: rent, buy an apartment, a house. I’m overwhelmed at the thought of moving her and us, plus I love our neighborhood.
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