Chris

  • May I add this about Denise: Soothing words with a kind soul

  • I appreciate your kindness, Jan!

  • Hi Jean,

    ‘Joy’ has been the most difficult of the emotions for me to accept. I can’t say when it happened, or how it happened, yet, it did happen just recently. Finding ‘Joy’ has allowed to have the strength and courage to start writing again. I appreciate your kind words. Thinking of you as you you support your friend and on the…[Read more]

  • Hi Pegi,

    Thanks for your kind words, and you’re correct, love will always remain! :)

  • Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.  ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

    Relief, Sadness, Guilt, and Joy all rolled up into on simple statement. Yet how do four very different […]

    • Thanks for your wisdom, Chris.

    • Chris, as I read this I was saying Yes, Yes, Yes…. until I read ‘Joy’. I had to think about it. And I do think that I had begun to approach the Joy… (though has been stifled by my best friend’s recent diagnosis of lung cancer. ) Have just passed the one year mark of my MIL’s death. Thanks so much for sharing. It’s good to see posts from you again.

      • Hi Jean,

        ‘Joy’ has been the most difficult of the emotions for me to accept. I can’t say when it happened, or how it happened, yet, it did happen just recently. Finding ‘Joy’ has allowed to have the strength and courage to start writing again. I appreciate your kind words. Thinking of you as you you support your friend and on the anniversary of MIL passing. HUGS!

  • Hi Maria,

    Goodness, your beautiful post hit home with me, especially this: ‘no one was waiting on me to come home.’ This has been one of the most difficult part of the transition for me, coming home. As I take more steps out of my withdrawal syndrome, I realize that coming home is Okay because no matter where I go, he is right beside me.…[Read more]

  • Sometimes Denise, we have to take a few steps back, before we can take a little step forward. I am now looking forward to the walk into the present, which will lead me into the future!

  • Hi Sally,

    Thanks for your kind response; we are sure traveling the same roads. Learning how to take care of myself has been a very difficult adjustment for me. I simply love what you said, “My love for my husband will never die and he will always be a big part of my life.” I take comfort in those words, thank you for sharing and thank you…[Read more]

  • The quality of a leader is reflected in the standards they set for themselves. ~ Ray Kroc

    One of the most important components to being a healthy family caregiver is to know your strengths and weaknesses, while […]

    • Chris, you are so right. After caregiving is just as emotional and stressful as caregiving at times. The main difference is that you are no longer providing hands on care for your loved one, you are just trying to keep going one step in front of the other without obsessing on your loss.
      Now it’s time to step back and take care of yourself, and that is one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. After my husband died I just sort of walked around in circles and didn’t get anywhere. It does get a little easier as time goes by. My love for my husband will never die and he will always be a big part of my life. I’ve learned to accept the memories when they come and try to remember the good parts. LuvNStuff Sally

    • Hi Sally,

      Thanks for your kind response; we are sure traveling the same roads. Learning how to take care of myself has been a very difficult adjustment for me. I simply love what you said, “My love for my husband will never die and he will always be a big part of my life.” I take comfort in those words, thank you for sharing and thank you for that gentle reminder.
      All my best to you!
      Chris

    • Hi Chris–I’m so glad you posted an update. I hope you will continue to keep us posted as this next chapter unfolds.

      It’s good to remember and honor the past. It’s important to live in the moment. It’s empowering to know that our future also holds happiness and purpose for us. To find that happiness and purpose in our future, we have to let go of believing it only lies in our past.

      Keep walking. :)

      • Sometimes Denise, we have to take a few steps back, before we can take a little step forward. I am now looking forward to the walk into the present, which will lead me into the future!

    • Chris,
      Great post! When my Grandfather & Aunt died within 4 months of each other I went through exactly what you are taking about.At the time the only way I could describe it was withdrawal. One of the hardest things I went through was the first time we went away & when we got home no one was waiting on me to come home.As a result of what I went through with my Grandfather & Aunt I started my own Care giving business.Because of what I went through I’m able to understand what families go through & can help them in ways I wouldn’t have been able to without my experience.

    • Hi Maria,

      Goodness, your beautiful post hit home with me, especially this: ‘no one was waiting on me to come home.’ This has been one of the most difficult part of the transition for me, coming home. As I take more steps out of my withdrawal syndrome, I realize that coming home is Okay because no matter where I go, he is right beside me. It’s taken me months to figure this out, but I am happy that the light has been shed upon me. Thanks you so much for sharing!

    • @thpurplejacket, this is an incredible post. Having had the honor of traveling part of your journey with you it brought tears of joy to my eyes. The love will always remain, so happy your on the path to the present and future.

  • I have a few titles:

    I Would Do It Again

    Its About Love, Care and Commitment

    You’re Not Alone

    Two Relationships In One

    I think this is a good start. :)

  • You’ve found a safe and soothing place Rob. Before you know it, you’ll have an extended family of support, comfort, care and love!

  • I am grateful for people who listen and help make me smile.

  • Chris commented on the post, A New Bloom 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks Denise, your words of wisdom always hit home. “It must feel so good to nourish again” YES!

    It’s nice to know that TLO is right beside me!

    Chris

  • Chris commented on the post, A New Bloom 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Jan,

    Thanks for your kind words and support. I agree, waking up in Florida we have lots of recuperative and regenerative forces of life right at our doorsteps. Its time to enjoy the white, the green and the blue to their fullest!

    Take Care,
    Chris

  • Chris commented on the post, A New Bloom 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Mar,

    Thank you for sharing your heart-felt words. I am grateful to hear that my post ministered to you heart.

    I have not been on the aftergiving chat for awhile, I will make it a point to stop by soon!

    Take Care,
    Chris

  • Chris commented on the post, A New Bloom 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi Lillie,

    Thanks for your kind words and support. I’ve really found a great hobby with gardening
    I will try the fish emulsion as my tub of miracle grow is just about out!

    Take care,
    Chris

  • ThumbnailDon’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant. ~ Robert Louis Stevenson

    I have never considered myself to have a green thumb and until recently, quite frankly, always found […]

    • Beautiful! My plants save my sanity sometimes and I am glad you are finding peace in gardening. I can so relate to moving your plants around and seeing how they respond to different areas of the house. I recently put a few plants in the Restroom and they love the steam. My porch is also filled with outdoor plants and as they bloom I bring them in so my mom can enjoy the beauty of the blooms. I don’t know what kind of plant food you use but the best you can get is fish emulsion! I buy mine on line but you can probably get it local. It’s nice to see someone who enjoys plants like I do! Keep up the great gardening…

      • Hi Lillie,

        Thanks for your kind words and support. I’ve really found a great hobby with gardening
        I will try the fish emulsion as my tub of miracle grow is just about out!

        Take care,
        Chris

    • Chris, what a beautiful and profound post … It really ministered to my heart.

      Your final sentence, it’s something I have found to be so true. Last summer, some morning glories taught me lesson after lesson, you’ve inspired me to blog about it. They also reminded me of my parent’s life and gave me assurance and comfort.

      P.S. — there is a new aftergiving chat every Monday at 8 Eastern time. If ever you would feel a tug to join us, your voice and presence would be a gift.

      Mar

      • Hi Mar,

        Thank you for sharing your heart-felt words. I am grateful to hear that my post ministered to you heart.

        I have not been on the aftergiving chat for awhile, I will make it a point to stop by soon!

        Take Care,
        Chris

    • Wonderful, thoughtful, sensitive, intelligent post. One thing I so often take for granted in South Florida is the recuperative and regenerative force of life. I need to wake up every single day and go outside and ingest the white, the green, the blue. Thank you.

      • Hi Jan,

        Thanks for your kind words and support. I agree, waking up in Florida we have lots of recuperative and regenerative forces of life right at our doorsteps. Its time to enjoy the white, the green and the blue to their fullest!

        Take Care,
        Chris

    • I love how you care over your plants as you cared for Richard to make sure he had just what he needed. You also looked to find him the best possible light.

      It must feel so good to nourish again. :)

    • Thanks Denise, your words of wisdom always hit home. “It must feel so good to nourish again” YES!

      It’s nice to know that TLO is right beside me!

      Chris

    • @thpurplejacket, a beautiful, touching post; inspirational. TLO must have a huge smile on his face.

  • Denise,

    As we chatted today on our video chat about caregiving and stress, your comment in your blog post, “It’s so odd when what we could do now becomes what we can’t” has so much meaning for both the Caregiver and the caree. As a Caregiver, it is hard for us to see first hand what our Caree use to be able to do, now can’t do. Equally as…[Read more]

  • Goodness grascious what an experience, Denise. No matter what we do to try to avoid these things from happening, when ‘they’ want to do something on their own, they sure do it. (Reminds me of TLO and the step latter.) Glad to know everyone is better today. Sounds like your hair stylist is pretty awesome too, just like you!

  • I’m late to the party this year, but it is always lots of fun!!!

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