Comments on: Normal?? http://www.caregiving.com Insights ~ Information ~ Inspirations Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:43:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Karen http://www.caregiving.com/quizes/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-51447 Karen Tue, 24 Aug 2010 05:11:07 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?page_id=196#comment-51447 Hi Eva, You really have a load to carry. I think that your feelings are very normal. I think all of us who are caregivers share these emotions. I take care of my mother who is 91 and an amputee and my brother who has had a stroke. It gets really hard sometimes. Mom always tries to keep a good attitude, but sometimes gets down because of hurting all the time; my brother can be a real curmudgeon at times and hard to deal with and then his situation really hits him and he goes off in his room and will cry for hours. I feel tired, guilty and all of the above, too. All I can say is that I understand. Hi Eva,
You really have a load to carry. I think that your feelings are very normal. I think all of us who are caregivers share these emotions. I take care of my mother who is 91 and an amputee and my brother who has had a stroke. It gets really hard sometimes. Mom always tries to keep a good attitude, but sometimes gets down because of hurting all the time; my brother can be a real curmudgeon at times and hard to deal with and then his situation really hits him and he goes off in his room and will cry for hours. I feel tired, guilty and all of the above, too.
All I can say is that I understand.

]]> By: eva http://www.caregiving.com/quizes/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-51412 eva Tue, 24 Aug 2010 02:39:42 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?page_id=196#comment-51412 i know just what you going through. BEEN CAREGIVER FOR THREE YEARS LAST 18 MONTHS FULLTIME SINCE MOM MOVED IN WITH US.AND SPOUSE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH PARKINSON DR.MOMS ALZHIMERS IS GETTING WORSE.AND I SOME TIMES JUST WANT TO RUN FROM MY RESPONSABILITIES. THEN I SEE MOM SO FRAIL N SPOUSE LOOKING SO SAD AT ME IT MAKES ME FEEL SO GUILTY FOR MY NOT CARIG MORE FOR THEMM. i know just what you going through. BEEN CAREGIVER FOR THREE YEARS LAST 18 MONTHS FULLTIME SINCE MOM MOVED IN WITH US.AND SPOUSE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH PARKINSON DR.MOMS ALZHIMERS IS GETTING WORSE.AND I SOME TIMES JUST WANT TO RUN FROM MY RESPONSABILITIES. THEN I SEE MOM SO FRAIL N SPOUSE LOOKING SO SAD AT ME IT MAKES ME FEEL SO GUILTY FOR MY NOT CARIG MORE FOR THEMM.

]]> By: Elaine http://www.caregiving.com/quizes/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-25077 Elaine Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:01:46 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?page_id=196#comment-25077 Yes, I can relate to your situation, only with my mother. She is not living with us but she might as well be. I think we do our very best when need arises, and although we are not perfect but human, we feel guilty when we can't do more. My reply would be to look after yourself, don't feel quilty about hiding, which I do sometimes, because the time away if only for a few moments, is the correct thing to do to give some breathing time. It is not an easy job and we take it on as a job. We do love our people but we should also love ourselves. Whatever we give to others should also be given to ourselves. Yes, I can relate to your situation, only with my mother. She is not living with us but she might as well be. I think we do our very best when need arises, and although we are not perfect but human, we feel guilty when we can’t do more. My reply would be to look after yourself, don’t feel quilty about hiding, which I do sometimes, because the time away if only for a few moments, is the correct thing to do to give some breathing time.
It is not an easy job and we take it on as a job. We do love our people but we should also love ourselves. Whatever we give to others should also be given to ourselves.

]]> By: Caregiving.com: A Website That is For Everyone from Newbie to Experienced Caregivers | Gilbert Guide http://www.caregiving.com/quizes/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-10844 Caregiving.com: A Website That is For Everyone from Newbie to Experienced Caregivers | Gilbert Guide Tue, 15 Sep 2009 17:27:37 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?page_id=196#comment-10844 [...] wrong or selfish. The blog also offers up advice to anyone worrying whether what they are doing is normal behavior. The postings and articles are very reminiscent of talking to a smart and caring person about [...] [...] wrong or selfish. The blog also offers up advice to anyone worrying whether what they are doing is normal behavior. The postings and articles are very reminiscent of talking to a smart and caring person about [...]

]]> By: Edie Dykeman http://www.caregiving.com/quizes/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-9292 Edie Dykeman Wed, 02 Sep 2009 09:29:59 +0000 http://www.caregiving.com/?page_id=196#comment-9292 What a list! Unfortunately, I had to say yes to all of them. As caregiver to my soon-to-be 87-year-old father for the past three years, my emotions are all over the place. Just in the last month I have been hit with extreme fatigue, and I am having a very difficult time turning that around. Having a love/hate relationship with a parent who is in the situation they are in through no fault of their own other than longevity takes its toll after a while. If I was in a negative mood and something happened to Dad, I would be devastated. But, trying to remain positive at all times is impossible. What a quandry we find ourselves in, but I know I am where I'm supposed to be at this season of my life. I know it will all work out in the end. What a list! Unfortunately, I had to say yes to all of them. As caregiver to my soon-to-be 87-year-old father for the past three years, my emotions are all over the place. Just in the last month I have been hit with extreme fatigue, and I am having a very difficult time turning that around.

Having a love/hate relationship with a parent who is in the situation they are in through no fault of their own other than longevity takes its toll after a while. If I was in a negative mood and something happened to Dad, I would be devastated. But, trying to remain positive at all times is impossible. What a quandry we find ourselves in, but I know I am where I’m supposed to be at this season of my life. I know it will all work out in the end.

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