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Tell Us: Why Do You Do This?

May 8 2013 in by Denise

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On Monday, I presented the keynote at Care and Connect, the annual conference sponsored by Alzheimer’s Association, Delaware Valley Chapter.  I presented The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey, which walks you through the caregiving experience, from when you first worry a family member (or friend) may need your help to after your [...]

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Is It Right If It Could Be Wrong?

Feb 14 2013 in by Denise

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On Tuesday morning, Anna Stookey joined me for our monthly chat on Your Caregiving Journey. On this show, we discussed this question: How do I make a decision that could be right for me but perhaps wrong for my caree? You can listen to our show via the player, below. (Note: You’ll hear that I [...]

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To Everything Turn, Turn, Turn: The Darker Side of My Caregiving Journey

Jan 4 2013 in by Bob

To everything there is a season. Twists and turns. Times when the bond between me and my loved one (my caree/wife) is deep and other times when it is constricted and vapid. Such has been the recent case. However, it’s been a pattern for a long time, exacerbated dramatically when I had no choice but to have her [...]

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Tell Us: Your Secret That’s Got You

Dec 22 2012 in by Denise

This morning on Your Caregiving Journey, Chris joined me to share his secret. You can listen to our show via the player below. During our show, Chris shared that he loved and cared for his partner, Father Orlando, until his death in 2006. For many reasons, he stayed silent about the relationship and the care [...]

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How Do You Motivate Your Caree?

Dec 13 2012 in by Denise

Last night on Your Caregiving Journey, our panel of family caregivers joined me to discuss this question: Can you set goals for your caree? You can listen to the insights from Richard, Jane and ejourneys shared during our show via our player below. Our discussion moved from wondering if it’s possible to set to goals, [...]

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Competing for Caregiving

Dec 2 2012 in by Denise

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On Thursday morning, Anna Stookey joined me on Your Caregiving Journey. We discussed a topic suggested by a listener: What do we do when we find ourselves competing for caregiving with a family member? You can listen to our show via the player below. We discussed a scenario that could involve a mother and daughter-in-law [...]

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Webinar Follow-Up: Which Statement Did You Create?

Nov 29 2012 in by Denise

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Yesterday, I led our free monthly webinar, “Communicating About Caregiving.” During the webinar, I walked you through several scenarios you’ll face during caregiving that require communication. Your emotions may make the communication just too difficult, which is why I helped you create drafts of statements. Creating statements now you can use when a health care [...]

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How Do You Protect Your Caree’s Privacy As You Seek Support?

Sep 3 2012 in , by Denise

On Saturday, ejourneys joined me for Table Talk on Your Caregiving Journey; you can listen to our show via the player below. We spoke about the delicate balance that happens during caregiving–you want to seek out support for yourself but you also want to protect your caree’s privacy. ejourneys spoke about her increasing comfort level [...]

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A Triangle Which Meets Both Needs

Aug 19 2012 in , by Denise

Yesterday on Your Caregiving Journey, Holly joined me for our monthly chat on Table Talk. (You can listen to our show via the player below.) We began our conversation with a continuation of our discussion from last month’s show on vision boards. From vision boards, we moved to this question: When my needs and my [...]

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Tell Us: How Do You Bounce Back?

Aug 9 2012 in , by Denise

Last night, Hot Topics aired on Your Caregiving Journey. Our panel of family caregivers (ejourneys, Jane, Richard and Bette) shared their answers to this question: How do you bounce back from a bad day? You can listen to our show via the player below. I’d love to know: After a bad day, how do you [...]

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Mess

Aug 9 2012 in , by Denise

Well, you may think, this is just a mess. It could be that literally you stare at a mess–a stack of laundry that dates back two weeks, a sink that hold days of dirty dishes, a closet that spills from too much. Or, it could be that you feel the mess. The stress of a [...]

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Tell Us: What Do You Now Accept?

May 19 2012 in , by Denise

This morning, Holly, who cares for her husband, joined me for our monthly chat. You can listen to our show via the player below. You’ll remember that, when Holly joined us last month, a bear had paid a visit to her back porch. Last summer, visits from the bear brought Holly to her knees (and [...]

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Ask Denise: How Do I Protect My Mom’s Money from My Sister?

May 9 2012 in by Denise

Hi Denise, I am so thankful I found your site. My mom is 87, lives nearby my husband and I. We have been managing her checkbook along with doctor visits, grocery, etc. etc. etc. The doctors tell us she may have early Alzheimer’s but she is unable to remember days of the week or checkbook [...]

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Tell Us: When Do You Fib?

Sep 22 2011 in , by Denise

I love this comment left by Karen yesterday in response to our request for bathing tips: Way back then, the only thing that would get her in the tub was if I told her she had a doctor appt the next day. That usually did it after coaxing for an hour… Needless to say… I [...]

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Tell Us: What Do You Take Too Seriously?

Aug 11 2011 in , by Denise

Heather begins her day the same way: Up at 5:30 a.m., shower, four bites of a granola bar, hair in a headband. Then, she dons the gloves, carefully and steadfastly placing each finger into the latex glove. She’s ready for the part of the day she dreads. She wakes her mom and begins the morning [...]

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Communicating What’s So Hard to Communicate

Jun 21 2011 in , by Denise

This morning on Your Caregiving Journey, Anna Stookey joined me to continue our conversation about depression. We spoke about how our inability to communicate how we feel can contribute to our feelings of depression. (You can listen to our show via the player below.) Anna and I spoke about how we may have learned, growing [...]

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Goldilocks

Jun 13 2011 in by Trish

It’s been a while since I posted but I was letting The Meeting simmer for a while. (These feelings probably also contributed to being a bit too harsh on my wayward son). After a week of reflection, I have decided it is in Robert’s best interest to move him. Again. You might be thinking there [...]

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Done

Jun 7 2011 in , by Denise

You’ll have those days when you want to throw up your hands, scream “I’m Done,” and then just walk out the door, never to return. You’re done with caregiving. It could be that the day just became too much of not enough going well. It could be that the day included unhelpful comments from unsupportive [...]

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Tell Us: What’s It Like for You With Family?

Jun 6 2011 in , by Denise

Caringlizi, one of our members, wrote yesterday: Dealing with my husband’s progressing brain tumor is bad enough, but I just don’t know what to do with his family.  I feel so invisible at times, bullied at others.  Not sure if I want to hide in the closet or yell. Can anybody relate? Sometimes, managing the [...]

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The Meeting

Jun 2 2011 in by Trish

(I’m sorry I’m behind on reading all the posts.  I promise to catch up!). The post today is brought to you by the letter “C.” Care Home.  Conflict.  Communication.  Crying (ugh!).  Cautiously optimistic. New Home called me earlier this week to schedule a meeting.  Those involved in the meeting would be the Nurse, House Manager, [...]

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Dear New Home:

May 26 2011 in by Trish

Who decided it would be a good thing to treat the family of one of your residents as if they were someone to be patted on the head and told, “There, there.  Don’t worry your pretty little head about this.”  Let’s review events since move-in three months ago:  You changed his medication schedule because it [...]

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Caregiving. Again.

May 15 2011 in , by Denise

On Friday, Kim Atchley, coauthor of When Your Aging Parent Needs Care: Practical Help for this Season of Life, joined me on Your Caregiving Journey. Kim cared for her parents. Now, she helps care for her mother-in-law. We spoke about what caregiving is like the second time around. (You can listen to our show via [...]

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