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EXTREME Caregiving: Still Rolling With It


Just as we get the feeling our feet may be on solid ground…whoopsie. I forget it’s more like quicksand! I think I need to steal my husband’s Indiana Jones fedora and maybe dodge a boulder. SIL’s behavior continues to be erratic but some things are better. It is sometimes hard to see when she’s REALLY sick or just wanting attention and being manipulative because there is both going on. All she wants is ME to ...

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EXTREME Caregiving: The Saga Continues


Definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. SIL physical condition continues to improve beyond all expectations but good God, any reasonable behavior is sorely lacking! Mom and I had a baby shower to go to and left SIL with a trusted babysitter while my son was also home. Far be it for us to think Mom and I could leave the house together for four hours! SIL caused ...

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EXTREME Caregiving: I’m So Imperfect But Oh Well!


As we yet again adjust to SIL’s change in condition and behavior I ended up kind of losing it. SIL is much clearer, speaking as well as walking better. Last week her social worker came by and she was relaying stories from her past, a good story about her run in with a moose in Alaska, I knew she was coming back! I’d heard the story before and she said it all right. Amazing, truly. ...

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EXTREME Caregiving Day 2: Trying to Take Care of Me


As I’m stepping back a little,I’m realzsing everything I’ve been doing. I’m still here for my sister-in-law, but this weekend I’m support staff lol, not head caregiver while we try and forge ahead and try and find balance especially for me. Hospice is a weird thing, for most it is a few weeks as you say goodbye to your loved one, hopefully at home. I was prepared for that with SIL but I really didn’t ...

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The Doorbell Did Me In


I have been absent from blogging for a few months. A friend of my let me know the other day that he missed reading my blog. He’ll be happy. Our doorbell has been acting up for some time. By acting up I mean not working. And it’s probably been going on for over a year. I had talked to my husband about it. We have a wireless doorbell and had changed the batteries in both ...

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Ten Tips to Effective Communication with Facility Staff


You’ve recently moved your mom to an assisted living facility. You’re working through the adjustment as best you can. Unfortunately, your mom’s complaints begin to pile up: She eats breakfast too late. She waits too long for help. She hates her roommate. What can you do to ensure your mom has what she needs? These tips can help you communicate effectively with staff: 1. Remember that you and the facility staff are on the same ...

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Hot Topics: When the Doctor Drops Your Caree as a Patient


Denise asked this question to Richard (@kreisler) and myself after my daughter’s cardiologist dropped her as his patient.  It was a great discussion and I appreciate Denise using this as a topic. Click on the player below to listen to the show and as always leave your comments below. Hugs:o) Jane ~ The Roving Reporter Check Out Caregiving Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with Denise Brown on BlogTalkRadio Related articles Dating During Caregiving… ( Your ...

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Why Did You Put Me Here?


Amy cared her mom, Edith, at home until, well, her life fell apart. First, Amy lost her job. Then, she lost her home to foreclosure. She knew she could live temporarily with a friend. Obviously, her mom, with her care needs, couldn’t move in with Amy’s friend. So, Amy and Edith looked at skilled nursing facilities together and selected one they both felt could meet Edith’s needs. To say it’s been a difficult transition would ...

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“My goal is to live until our son turns 18.” “13 months from now? Is there something you’re not telling me?” “Well, I didn’t expect to be on disability at 55, and I think it’s important for a child to have their parents until they are 18, don’t you?” I was quite a sight with my mouth open like a fish’s and tears spilling out of my eyes. “Frankly, I’m speechless. My goal is to ...

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Not My Responsibility


Part of the challenge of caring for my partner has had to do with setting limits and saying “no.” Over the years I’ve learned to do this, more or less, with claiming time and space for myself. Given her neurological-mixed-with-mental illnesses, I can exercise only so much influence. Most times I have to back away, detach, and keep reminding myself that the only behavior I can control is my own. But there is a fuzzy ...

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