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A Day on the Farm – Easter


So today on the farm the mood was much brighter than just because it was Easter. We had a real present from my sister, Jennifer. A surprise visit at that! With all going on with my mom and my toddler I rarely make time for myself or go do things just for me, but we like to celebrate holidays in whatever county we are in. In these celebrations or holidays on the farm we are ... Read More »

A Day on the Farm


(Editor’s Note: We welcome a new blogger today, Robin, who cares for her mom. You can connect with her on her profile page:  @robincjsmom. Robin will write periodic updates and short stories about how she sees life on the Farm.) I chose to name our new home The Farm, well, truly and honestly, because we have so many animals. It then became so much more. and acronym for Farm was born. The Farm Family Animals ... Read More »

What’s Your Story of Forgiveness?


Three years ago, we featured your stories of forgiveness on our talk show, Your Caregiving Journey. I thought it would be great to revisit the series and add more of your stories. I’d love for you to join me for a talk show to share your story of forgiveness. Your story could be about how you forgave, how you are currently forgiving or about how you trying to forgive. I’ll ask about your perspective of ... Read More »

Being Thankful


I was going to write about how hard it has been, even with help, to take care of Mom since she arrived home. I was going to write about the fact that my stress levels are so high between juggling caregivers, nurses, physical therapy, occupational therapy, doctors appointments, EMT transportation, hoyer lifts, wheelchairs, bedpans and catheters that I have had heart palpitations. Instead I will write about the stuff of the season… love, family, understanding ... Read More »

Keeping Your Seat at the Head of the Table


A visitor to the website recently posted a request for help. My friend, she explained, and her sister are locked in a power struggle over who will be the No. 1 caregiver for their mom. My friend has been helping and caring for her mother for years. Now that her mother’s end is near, her out-of-town sister has arrived, gunning to take over. How can I help my friend, she asked? When you’ve taken care ... Read More »

The Test

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Tomorrow I’m having a colonoscopy. From here on out we’re referring to it as The Test because c-o-l-o-n-o-s-c-o-p-y is too much to type. This has been scheduled since early last month. I let Steve and our son know and had already arranged for a friend to take me for the appointment. She’s not a morning person, yet, she’s picking me up at 7:15 tomorrow morning. What a friend! Most of the time, Steve’s memory issues ... Read More »

What Do You Think: Can Caregiving Heal?


Can caregiving heal? Tonight on Your Caregiving Journey, our panel of family caregivers shared their answers to this question. You can listen to our show via the player below. During our discussion, @kreisler spoke about how your care heals simply because it’s you (you’re like chicken soup). @ejourneys shared that the caregiving experience has proven to be a healing experience for her. And, @jbones1961 said that her relationship with Nicole is closer because of caregiving. ... Read More »

How Do You Define Forgiveness?


This morning, Trish, who created and edited our terrific new book, Forgiveness, joined me on Your Caregiving Journey. We discussed Forgiveness, the third in our CareGifters Book Series, with two of our book’s contributors, Kathy, and Joy. You can listen to our show via the player below. During the show, we discussed our definition of forgiveness, that it’s a process and that it’s something we do for ourselves. Trish, Kathy and Joy shared their thoughts ... Read More »

Add Forgiveness to the Care Plan


Yesterday, Claire Day, our dementia care expert, joined me for our monthly discussion on Your Caregiving Journey. You can listen to our show via the player below. Claire and I discussed the importance of forgiveness in dementia care (and in any caregiving situation). We spoke about the importance of moving past what was (the hurts and pain you experienced) to focus on what is (what’s possible today). We also talked about the importance of forgiveness ... Read More »

Now Available: Your Forgiveness Book


Forgiveness, A Collection of Stories by Those Who Care, the third in our CareGifters Book Series, is now available as an ebook. The cost of the ebook is $5; the proceeds from books sales will be donated toward our CareGifters program. You can buy your copy here. Forgiveness can seem so elusive. We fight it and then, once we fight through it, we wonder how we ever lived without it. In Forgiveness, our contributors tell ... Read More »



Now that the Comedy book is finished (purchase your copy here please!), I’ve been preparing for the Forgiveness book.  Because I have a block when it comes to technology, it took G-J to tell me (um, a few times) I could download Denise’s radio shows to my iPod.  Doh! So I went to iTunes and downloaded a bunch of the shows (I think that’s how I did it – don’t quote me on that). :-)    They ... Read More »

Needed: Your Stories of Forgiveness


As you know, we launched an initiative last year called CareGifters. Through CareGifters, we fund caregiving solutions, one family caregiver at a time. Whenever we can, we raise $500 to give to a family caregiver; the family caregiver uses the money to fund a solution for one (or more) of their challenges. We raise money for CareGifters through direct donations and through the sales of “I CAN!” wrist bands. Last spring, Chet, one of our ... Read More »

We Break to Disrupt Our Life


We’re continuing our campaign to disrupt today as we kick off with a special week of activities. This week, we’ll break to disrupt our life, our day, another family caregiver’s day and our community. Today, we’re breaking to disrupt our life with forgiveness. I think we all carry a regret or a shame. Maybe it’s not something we think about every day or every week, but once in awhile, the memory comes up. And, we ... Read More »

Your Greatest Caregiving Skill: You Know How


Last week, I presented my workshop, Healing the Family Rifts, for a group of social workers and family caregivers. During the presentation, the attendees shared their stories of rifts that leave them wounded. For the family caregivers in the audience, the wounds come because other family members just won’t help. Abby, who cares for her mom and also cared for dad, shared her story during our introductions. She’s one of six siblings but the only ... Read More »

Stepping Into the Caregiving Size that Fits


Anna Stookey joined me yesterday on Your Caregiving Journey for our monthly chat. We discussed the importance of accepting today’s reality so we can wake up tomorrow in a good place. You can listen to our show via the player below. Anna shared a great example of what it’s like when we resist the reality of our today. It’s like how we may feel when we’ve gained weight, she said, and yet we don’t face ... Read More »



Sometimes, the struggle in your life can feel like hole in the toe of your sock when you’re wearing boots on a snowy day. It’s irritating, uncomfortable and aggravating. In the moment, it also seems unsolvable, like it will last forever. Like you will always be walking in your boots in the snow as your toe sticks out of your sock. Of course, the hole in the sock can be a quick fix. You can ... Read More »

What Would You Have Resolved Before Caregiving Began?


In 1998, I sat in my bedroom in my parents’ home and penned The Caregiving Years handbook. Through the handbook, I wanted to share ways to walk the caregiving journey without walking out. More importantly, I wanted the handbook to help family caregivers end the experience without regrets and move into their lives’ next chapter with a motivating sense of purpose. The handbook includes tips for for the “Expectant Caregiver,” the individual expecting a caregiving ... Read More »

Simply, Forgive


Yesterday morning, I presented a workshop, Healing the Life-Long Family Rifts, for a local assisted living facility. (The workshop is available as a webinar; you can listen to it here.) I began the workshop by asking attendees to share the rifts they’ve experienced in their families. Mary needed little prodding to share about her rift with her brother. She had cared for her mother for 10 years. And, her list of complaints against her brother ... Read More »

Why Forever Is Okay


This afternoon, Trish joined me on Your Caregiving Journey to discuss her book, Forever a Caregiver, our October Caregiving Book Club pick. You can listen to our discussion via the player below. Trish’s book details her childhood with a mom who suffered from severe depression and a father who lived the highs and lows of bipolar disease. It’s a story of cigarette smoke, suicide attempts and broken hearts. It’s also a story of accepting the ... Read More »

No Regrets (Fingers Crossed)


On Friday, four caregiving experts joined me for a discussion on Your Caregiving Journey on preventing regrets. Our experts included Leann Reynolds, president of Homewatch CareGivers; Suzanne Mintz, CEO of National Family Caregivers Association; Jesse Slome, Director of the American Association for Long-Term Care Insurance; and Bette, who blogs about caring for her mom and her children. You can listen to our show via the player at the bottom of the post. The pressure in ... Read More »

Forgiveness: Opening the Door You Kept Shut


This afternoon on Your Caregiving Journey, Bette joined me to share her story of forgiveness. You can listen to our show via the podcast at the bottom of the post. Bette’s forgiveness story involves her mom, who is also her caree. A difficult childhood relationship created a relationship in adulthood that Bette dodged. But, the dodging became more difficult when Bette’s mom moved in with Bette’s family after her mom’s stroke. Bette continued to struggle ... Read More »

Next Time


We can be so generous in the chances we give to others. We are quick to help a friend feel better who at times can’t be as supportive as we’d like, to extend a good wish to someone who took a bad day out on us, to accept a hug from someone who may have hurt us. The ability to accept another’s imperfections speaks so well of us. We can give another another chance. Why, ... Read More »