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How Do You Bear the Pain and Suffering?

Apr 8 2013 in by Denise

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Yesterday, @carlaschuchman posed this question: How do you continue to watch the one you love so very much struggle so? How does one person deal with the pain? The declines and losses during caregiving can seem relentless. You adjust to one and then another arrives. You witness your caree suffer, which means you suffer, too. [...]

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Recharging the Batteries, Bit by Bit

Oct 29 2012 in , , by Jo

Since my Dad’s death I’ve taken a deliberately lower profile across all social and electronic media. A combination of grief, depression and simple emotional exhaustion made it prudent to do so. I’ve pulled up and scanned Caregiving.com from time to time, been deeply touched by so many of your posts, but simply didn’t have the [...]

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Grief Wrapped in Five Pounds of Adorable Fluff

Oct 9 2012 in by Trish

I debated about posting this here but then realized, we all deal with grief eventually (sometimes unexpectedly) and thought it might be helpful. Even though I’m not a member of AfterGiving, it may even be an appropriate post for that section.  I’ll let Denise be the judge of that. This past week was rough. When [...]

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Rally

Sep 25 2012 in , by Denise

At the end of your caregiving experience, you’ll find yourself wishing for a rally, hoping your caree can turn another corner, regain that lost strength, recover to where she was. You’ve had so many rallies in the past, it can be hard to believe one more rally just won’t come. And, when that rally doesn’t [...]

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Decisions

Aug 3 2012 in , , by Jo

This Sunday would be my wife’s birthday if she were still alive. This has been a difficult year for my kids. Crying, grave site visits, depression. It hasn’t been this bad since the year she died. Decided this would be a great weekend to see my Mother-in-law. She had a heart attack last month and [...]

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Another Week And Wait

Jun 4 2012 in , by carlaschuchman

Finally, the new week is here. I am feeling worried, stressed, and most of the weekend I have spent doing…nothing. Unless I was helping Smokey. My work has slowed down and that stresses me because when it does, I fall behind on bills. Here it is the first of the month and I can’t pay [...]

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A Ramble

Jun 1 2012 in , , by Jo

Fair warning, I’m about to ramble. Due to recent events it is a little hard to write coherently…. Memorial Day evening, my daughter asks to go to her Mom’s grave. I take her. Tuesday morning the nursing home called about a “walk-in” appointment for Dad with a Podiatrist. I was already on the highway with [...]

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Letting Go

May 23 2012 in , by Denise

This morning, Anna Stookey joined me on Your Caregiving Journey to talk about why it’s so hard to let go. You can listen to our show via the player below. Our discussion geared on letting go when we know we’re at the end–of a job, a relationship, of life. We talked about the tension that [...]

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Tag Cloud

Apr 27 2012 in , , by Jo

A couple of pics for you: “Tags” are the key words in a blog. Many blogs create a visual representation of those key words, a “tag cloud” showing not only what tags were used but using different word size, showing what tags were used the most; an indicator of relative importance. Above is the Tag [...]

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What’s Your Bear?

Apr 22 2012 in , by Denise

Yesterday, Holly, who cares for her husband, Dave, joined me for Table Talk on Your Caregiving Journey. We talked about how to feel better on a bad day. You can listen to our show via the player below. I asked Holly to tell us about her bad days. In turns out, her recent bad days [...]

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Is Grieving Acknowledged?

Mar 13 2012 in , by Denise

This morning, on Your Caregiving Journey, Anna Stookey joined me for a discussion about grieving and depression. We discussed this question currently being debated by health care professionals: Should the definition of depression including grieving? You can listen to our show via the player below. (And, the inspiration for our show was this New York [...]

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Today

Dec 23 2011 in , , by Jo

Today I went to work. It may be two days before Christmas and relatively quiet but a military base never completely closes. Today I saw new “Welcome Home” banners posted on the fence line outside the base. A unit must be returning soon. I pray they make it back in time for Christmas, it’ll be [...]

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An Early Christmas

Dec 4 2011 in , , , , by Jo

I’m looking forward to the Progressive Blog Party this year, especially after days like today. Mom and Dad seemed to push all of my emotional buttons today during my visit with them.  Dad is increasingly tired and now having trouble just sitting up.  He speaks when spoken to but when he opens his eyes there is [...]

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Giving Thanks

Nov 18 2011 in , , by Jo

“Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks…” [1 Thess 5:16-18a] The past month has given me much to be thankful for… I am thankful for the legacy my brother has left me. I am thankful that I got to see him just before his death. I am thankful for my best friend’s young [...]

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Alzheimer’s and Hospice

Oct 25 2011 in , by Denise

This morning, Claire Day, Vice President of Constituent Services for the Alzheimer’s Association Delaware Valley Chapter, joined me on Your Caregiving Journey to talk about Alzheimer’s disease and Hospice. You can listen to our show via the player below. We talked about the importance of including Hospice in your caree’s care plan as well as [...]

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The Journey Continues….

Oct 22 2011 in , , by Jo

Home safe and sound and I can happily report that my garmet bag was right where I left it, in my bedroom, fully packed. I may have left my luggage at home but I have now have a nice new suit, dress shirt, dress shoes, socks, tie, tie clip and several casual articles of clothing. An important lesson learned, [...]

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A Lasting Lesson

Oct 11 2011 in , , by Jo

I was up late last night, trading emails with my sister-in-law, helping in the planning of my brother’s memorial. One of the things she asked me do to was edit a biography of him.  I couldn’t help but reflect on the many things I had learned from my older brother. Arguably one of the most [...]

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Grieving Again

Oct 9 2011 in , , by Jo

My brother died this morning. I informed my sister. I told my son and daughter. I let friends who had been praying and supporting us know. I didn’t have the heart to tell Mom and Dad. Interestingly Dad, without prompting, asked me about his oldest son. I stammered an indirect answer. I’ve been down that [...]

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Tell Us: What Part of You Got Lost?

Sep 13 2011 in , by Denise

In last week’s poll, What’s Caregiving’s Worst Side Effect?, your top answer was, “I feel like I lost myself.” I’d love for you to tell us more. For instance, do you feel like you look in the mirror and wonder what happened? Do you feel like you’ve lost your ability to enjoy what you used [...]

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Happy Birthday, Dad, I Love You

Sep 12 2011 in , , by Jo

I avoided all news channels this past weekend. The memorials and scenes from 9-11 were too  much for me to take in. Like everyone of age, I remember precisely where I was and what I was doing ten years ago that  fateful morning. In some ways my world  changed very little. Ten years ago I [...]

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Accepting to Find the Fairness of Life

Sep 3 2011 in , by Denise

This morning on Your Caregiving Journey, Holly, who cares for her husband, joined me to share her story of accepting her truth in her life. You can listen to our show via the player at the bottom of the post. Holly shared a time in her life when she felt her inner light had been [...]

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Standing Tall After the Storm

Aug 29 2011 in , , by Jo

My family and I fared fine in the “Storm of the Century” and I’ve been reminded of the importance of knowing which way is “down wind” when walking your dog during a hurricane. Broken limbs and fallen branches have created a mess in our yard. When my kids asked who was going to clean this up [...]

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