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Tell Us: Which Task Would You Delegate?


Last month, we launched our Daily Log Project, which asks you to track your responsibilities, tasks and reminders during one caregiving day. (Read what happened when @Trish, who cares for her brother, tracked her day.) Rajiv Mehta, founder of Unfrazzle, and I began the project with the purpose of better understanding your day so we can better meet your needs. And, in order to better understand your day, we need to know the tasks of ... Read More »

Sometimes, They Just Don’t Help


We all hear (and I often say) that asking for help is imperative during a situation like caregiving. You simply have too much to do to do it all yourself. This is completely true. Sometimes, though, the message to ask for help doesn’t represent the complete picture. I attended a webinar yesterday during which the experts kept reiterating that family caregivers need to ask for help. For some reason, this really rubbed me the wrong ... Read More »

The Slave Driver and The Better Parts of Caregiving


I only call this blog, The Slave Driver and The Better Parts of Caregiving, because I don’t think I’ve ever seen Robert this busy during a two-day period. Trish has had him writing his holiday cards, which he was able to complete twelve yesterday alone (a new record, last one was five).  He went with us to get our trees, yes I said trees. If you know Trish you know why I say this. Over the past several ... Read More »

Video Chat: Working Well with a Home Care Agency


On Friday, December 6, please join me for a discussion on how to work well with a home care agency with Claudia Cook, eldercare consultant, with the LivHOME branch in Skokie, Ill. LivHOME is a national at-home senior care company. About Claudia: Claudia Cook joined LivHOME, Inc., the nation’s largest professionally led at-home senior care company, as an Eldercare Consultant in April 2006. Claudia is a social worker and expert in aging services. She has ... Read More »

It’s Depressing Being Depressed Is What I’m Told


This post has taken me five days just to get to the point of sitting down and to start on it, that’s how hard it has been for me.  Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not discounting the original statement which was recently made by my mom who is dealing with, per her doctor, major depression which has made its way into her life slowly.  She had a double heart valve replacement surgery a handful ... Read More »

Call in Show: When Was the Last Time You Asked for Help?


Denise was joined by Trish to discuss this topic on Oct. 23rd. This is something that I imagine that all of us struggle with to some degree… I know I do! Click on the player below to listen and as always leave your comments below. Hugs:o) Jane ~ The Roving Reporter Find Additional Caregiving Podcasts with Denise Brown on BlogTalkRadio Related Articles Your Caregiving Journey: What Does Burn-Out Feel Like? ( Dating During Caregiving… ( ... Read More »

Podcast: Setting Expectations for the Holidays


Anna Stookey joined Denise on Oct. 8th to talk about the holidays and how to get through them easier. Check out the show and as always leave your comments below. How do you ensure you have the holiday you want? Hugs:o) Jane ~ The Roving Reporter New Caregiving Podcasts with Denise Brown on BlogTalkRadio Related Articles Ask Denise: How Do We Align the Family to Support Us and Mom? ( Table Talk with Chris… ( Surviving ... Read More »

Ask Denise: How Do We Align the Family to Support Us and Mom?


(Editor’s Note: As you know, we celebrated the 17th birthday of last month. In looking back at how the website has changed over the years, I uncovered many past Ask Denise columns. I’ll re-run these columns regularly as I think you’ll enjoy them. This column originally appeared on on April 24, 2000.) Dear Denise, Two years ago my mother-in-law moved in with my wife and me. She is 74-years-old and frail; however, she ... Read More »

Next Round


Photo: Part of an image from the clubhouse brochure. We’ve had a whirlwind of a day. Partner was in a rush to get to the ICCD clubhouse, figuring they’d get her a job post-haste. For the two years since her referral there, she had been resisting the place. Then she had talked about it on and off. Now she’s gung-ho. On balance, that’s a good thing. But first partner wanted a digital tape recorder. She ... Read More »

Back to…

It’s back to school time! If you are raising a child, they have either started school or will be returning to school very soon. With the start of the school year comes excitement, anxiety, new clothes, new school supplies, the outlay of a lot of money, and a busier schedule. If you’re also a family caregiver, you may be wondering how you will juggle everything. You might be an experienced family caregiver who has been ... Read More »

We’re All the Same


No matter how brave, strong or levelheaded we are, sometimes we all get scared. - Author Unknown Sometimes a quote, poem or saying comes along that just can’t wait for you to publish later; this is one of those saying. Everyone can use a boost of confidence or just to know that they’re not the only one in a tough spot. What they should know is that it will change, just like the weather storm ... Read More »

Balancing a Caree on One Side, Children on the Other


Becky does her best to juggle her three kids and her elderly mom. But without fail she feels like she drops the ball just about every day. And, the balls she drops seem to always involve the kids. Can I do this, she wonders, can I care for my mother and raise my children? The sandwich generation–those who care for family members while raising children–experience a tough balancing act. Children, with their enthusiasm and zest ... Read More »

The Juggling Caregiver


Announcer’s Voice: Ladies and gentlemen! Today we bring you one of the most daring feats known to mankind.  We have with us a woman, measuring in at 5’ 1 1/2” who is going to try to dazzle you with her juggling, and not just any juggling! She is going to try to juggle two men! Yes, you heard that right! Previously, she has attempted juggling two men and a boy with less than impressive results, ... Read More »

A Tree that Gives Back a Life


When I start my week with CBS Sunday Morning, I start inspired. It’s an amazing television show that educates, informs and comforts. I miss it when I miss it. I’m so glad I watched it this morning. Today, the show featured a personal commentary from Mark Hirsch, a photographer from Platteville, Wisc. His story reminds me of @comicvixen’s post from Friday and @Jan’s post from yesterday. He tells his story in the video, below. Related ... Read More »

When the Stuff Blocks the Move


Your caree wants to move. You want your caree to move. But, he has so much stuff that the two of you dread the idea of a move. So, your caree stays put. How do you tackle the stuff so the move can happen? Turn to professionals who know just how to move your carees from a 10-room house to a two-room apartment. Senior move managers specialize in helping older adults downsize, which means they ... Read More »

Crown Of Thorns (Running for Cover)


“May the ‘God’ of your understanding richly bless you and stay well” @rainbow. As it’s Sunday while I type this post after last night’s chat and my post about losing my temper with my father, I found that I got devoured by the Tiger of Dementia. That Beast of Depression took over last night and it’s not quite gone yet.  I haven’t slept well for days.  There is only so much yelling I can take and ... Read More »



This community has provided me with a sense of shelter from so much trauma.  You have helped me see that I can handle so much more than I thought. You have made me laugh when I thought I had no laugh in me.  You have helped me cry when I thought I was unable to cry.  You have thanked me for things that you do.  You have helped me feel worthy. I can’t believe (yet) ... Read More »

This Weekend, Grill for a Family Caregiver


When you care for a family member or friend with a chronic illness, your world gets smaller. And, so does your family member’s. Family caregivers feel isolated in their role. They feel bogged down by their responsibilities, so much so that they find it hard to find time to socialize with family members and friends. And, their carees feel isolated because of their age and/or their chronic illness and disability. It can be a very ... Read More »

Job Jar Day Is Saturday!


Help Around the House for Family Caregivers Job Jar Day, A Family Caregiver Awareness Day, Takes Place the Last Saturday of Every Month Caring for a family member or friend with a chronic illness can be lonely, overwhelming and exhausting. Because the focus becomes about the individual who needs care, tasks around the house end up on the bottom of the To Do list. To lessen the load, even for a few hours, encourages ... Read More »

Beginning the Transition to More Help


A colleague recently asked me to lunch. “I want to pick your brain about my parents,” she said. I knew some of her parents’ history–they lived in a rural area on the East Coast. My friend lived in Chicago; her siblings, on the West Coast. I also knew her parents had been resisting help. I knew we were going to talk about how to get her parents to accept more help. And, we did. Her ... Read More »

Getting a Break: Ideas for a Week Of Respite


@G-J shared a story with me about caring for her father about five years ago during our Sandwich Shop talk show in January. After her mother died, G-J’s father moved from Arizona to her home in California. After a few months of living together, G-J invited her father to join her husband and son on a long-planned week-long vacation. His response: Absolutely not. I’m not going. But G-J couldn’t not go. It had been a ... Read More »

Getting a Break: Ideas to Get a Day of Respite


In my post on Tuesday, I suggested ideas so you can take a break for a few hours. Those few hours can be feel great until you think, “I need more! I need more time away!” So, let’s take a look at how you can arrange to take time away from caregiving for an entire day. Adult day services: While you take a day off, your caree attends an adult day service, which provides activities, ... Read More »