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Tell Us: What Will You Stop?

May 14 2013 in by Denise

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Last month, while preparing our free webinar, Moving from Sacrifice to Compromise, I ran across Dr. Phil’s 10 Life Laws. In an article about his Life Laws, he suggested questions we can ask ourselves in order to make positive changes in our day. I can’t recall all the questions because I can only remember one: [...]

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How Others Rationalize Away Helping

May 6 2013 in , by G-J

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My neighbor’s wife has cancer. I found out around Christmas when I went to their house to deliver the trail mix that we make for them each year. The cancer was in her jaw and she had to have reconstructive surgery. I didn’t know his wife was ill, and neither did the other neighbors. I [...]

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What Dementia Cannot Do

Mar 22 2013 in by G-J

There is an inspirational poem entitled, “What Cancer Cannot Do” which you may have seen on the internet.  I started a list of What Dementia Cannot Do and would love to have you add to it.  (Dementia is being used here as that umbrella term encompassing dementia as well as Alzheimer’s, Frontal Temporal Dementia, Lewy-Body [...]

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Music to Comfort

Dec 23 2012 in by Denise

Today, on CBS Sunday Morning, Bill Flanagan of MTV shared songs which can bring hope and solace. He recommended: Leonard Cohen’s “Hallelujah”; Simon and Garfunkel’s “Bridge Over Troubled Water”; The Beatles’ “Let It Be”; James Taylor’s “Fire and Rain”; The Melodians’ “Rivers of Babylon”; Bob Dylan’s “Every Grain of Sand.” I would add: “Lullaby” by [...]

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Next: Way, Light, Noise

Dec 19 2012 in by Denise

Jane and I discussed last week’s three words in our Three-Word Journaling class (part of our CarePASS membership) this morning. We realized that we can go through life in a sleep. When we wake–and face our days–we can move forward and together with others who understand. When we stay asleep, we stay alone. Our next [...]

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Next: Sleep, Forward, Together

Dec 12 2012 in by Denise

Jane and I discussed last week’s three words in our Three-Word Journaling class this morning. We put all the three words together to create this sentence: When we’re frank about how we glitter, we keep our bounce. Our next three words for our Community Caregiving Journal are: Sleep Forward Together You can write about each [...]

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Next: Glitter, Bounce, Frank

Dec 5 2012 in by Denise

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We’re heading into our second week of our Community Caregiving Journal. Create a blog post by next Wednesday, December 12, and write about these three words: Glitter Bounce Frank (you can write about the Franks in your life or just about being frank or any other definition of frank (like a hot dog) you’d like) [...]

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A Community Caregiving Journal…

Nov 26 2012 in , by Denise

To join our community caregiving journal, just start writing.

…that starts with three words. On Saturday, over my mid-morning snack of peanut butter on toast, I read about National Novel Writing Month. Throughout November, would-be novelists commit to writing 5,000 words in 30 days. In essence, they craft their novel. That got me thinking. What if we created a community journal? What if members [...]

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Bette’s New Book: Come Visit Me

Oct 29 2012 in by Denise

This afternoon, Bette and her husband, Greg, joined me on Your Caregiving Journey to talk about their just-published children’s book, Come Visit Me. You can listen to our interview via the player below. Bette, who began caring for her mother when her youngest was nine months old, based Come Visit Me on her family’s story. [...]

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How Much Do I Care?

Oct 8 2012 in , by Denise

On Saturday, ejourneys joined me for Table Talk on Your Caregiving Journey. You can listen to our show via the player below. During our show, we spoke about moving from believing you must be everything to and for your caree to understanding the importance of setting boundaries and having distinct identities. When she focused so [...]

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Making Room for Two Stories: Yours and Your Caree’s

Sep 11 2012 in , by Denise

Recently, we’ve had discussions about how to find support for yourself while respecting your caree’s privacy. ejourneys and I discussed this during a recent episode of Table Talk. Yesterday, Anna Stookey, our professional who keeps us in a good place emotionally, joined me on Your Caregiving Journey to  share her thoughts on the topic. You [...]

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Your Greatest Caregiving Skill: You Know How

Mar 15 2012 in by Denise

Last week, I presented my workshop, Healing the Family Rifts, for a group of social workers and family caregivers. During the presentation, the attendees shared their stories of rifts that leave them wounded. For the family caregivers in the audience, the wounds come because other family members just won’t help. Abby, who cares for her [...]

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Bake

Mar 14 2012 in , by Denise

In your caregiving role, you’ll hear lots of half-baked ideas. Ideas like: Since  you’re so stressed, why don’t you just find a nursing home for him? Since it’s such a worry for you, why don’t you just divorce him? Since it’s such a struggle for you, why don’t you get a job (or quit your [...]

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The Fears That Bind

Oct 12 2011 in , by Denise

Last week, my niece, Sarah, joined me on Your Caregiving Journey to continue our conversation about managing culture shock. When you land into the life of caregiving, it’s a huge culture shock. Sarah shared the coping strategies she learned from living in a small town in Poland for two years. You can listen to our [...]

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Another Story to Tell . . .

Jul 19 2011 in by Trish

Something tonight other than Robert-centric caregiving.  My wonderful mother-in-law has been in the hospital since Friday where they are trying to figure out why she has fluid (bloody, at that) in her lungs.  They are telling us it is either a malignancy or an infection but it seems the doctors are leaning toward cancer. I’ve [...]

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What Color is Your Plate?

Jun 7 2011 in , , by Jo

An interesting article that I came across. What Color is Your Plate by Max Wallack http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2010/08/what-color-is-your-plate.html some highlights: “Forty percent of Alzheimer’s patients don’t eat enough…” “…vision plays a role in Alzhemer’s patients reluctance to eat. This phenomena is explained by Boston University bio-psychologist Alice Cronin-Golomb and her research partners in an article subtitled — ‘If [...]

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Tell Us: What’s It Like for You With Family?

Jun 6 2011 in , by Denise

Caringlizi, one of our members, wrote yesterday: Dealing with my husband’s progressing brain tumor is bad enough, but I just don’t know what to do with his family.  I feel so invisible at times, bullied at others.  Not sure if I want to hide in the closet or yell. Can anybody relate? Sometimes, managing the [...]

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Presidential Citizens Medal

May 24 2011 in , by Jo

For the 2011 Presidential Citizens Medal, the White House is asking citizens to nominate the men and women around us who have left an impact within their communities, and in turn inspired others. http://www.whitehouse.gov/citizensmedal I don’t know if she is eligible because of some nuances of the qualifications but one of the first people I [...]

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Receiving in Order to Receive

May 24 2011 in , by Denise

This afternoon, Amanda Owen, author of The Power of Receiving, our May Caregiving Book Club pick, joined me for a discussion on Your Caregiving Journey. Amanda’s book offers tools to help us become as skilled in receiving as we are in giving. You can listen to our show via the player, below. I loved this [...]

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The Talk

Apr 7 2011 in by Trish

Robert and I had “The Talk.” I was Mean Mommy for a few minutes and it so happened that our talk was the same day he saw the dentist. Might as well get all the icky stuff done in one day! I’ll admit it. Robert hasn’t seen a dentist in several years. (I’ll wait a [...]

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Our New Support Groups

Mar 14 2011 in , by Denise

As you know, Caregiving.com made a move last week. And, during the move, I lost our online support groups. (Read “What I Lost in the Move“.) After a few issues and glitches, I’m happy to say we have online support groups again! The groups are part of the site, which differs from how we used [...]

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Giving Happy

Feb 22 2011 in , by Denise

This morning, on Your Caregiving Journey, Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo joined me to help this question: Why do we have to work at happiness? Why isn’t it a given? You can listen to our show via the player below. (We had technical problems which abruptly ended the show. I didn’t get a chance to thank you [...]

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