You feel discouraged. You feel disconnected. You feel disoriented.

You feel dissed by life.

With the dis, life seemingly left you alone to pick up the heavy, bulky, fragile pieces broken by caregiving.

How do you keep going?

Look up. Look around. Notice others who carry similar heavy, bulky, fragile pieces. Because they understand, they may have ideas to help you fit the pieces together. They may have guidance and suggestions that help you find your footing.

With others near you in a similar state, you also understand that it’s not personal. Life didn’t select just you for a crappy life. You understand it didn’t just happen to you; it happened to others, too.

When you understand that others struggle beside you, you’ve lightened your own load because you no longer carry your pity party’s decorations and crock pots. You can leave the pity party behind because you see others walking ahead of theirs.

Now that you see that others have intense challenges, you can choose to give and receive to them. You can decide to be part of the discussion, a member of the caregiving band. Perhaps the addition of your voice changes the band’s discord into a harmonious melody.

Maybe it’s a club no one wants to join. Maybe it’s also the band that helps you piece it all together because you see that life still can sing for you.


About Denise

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

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