We had dreams, our wishes for ourself and for our future. Then our caregiving experience seemed to swallow them. We tried so hard to hold on to our dreams while we clung to our caregiving life raft. But the waves of caregiving responsibilities, decisions and tasks became too strong and we had to let go. The dreams floated out to sea and disappeared from our raft’s view.

If we watched them go, can we get them back?

While it seems caregiving steals our dreams, I think caregiving just silences them temporarily. The stress and worry leave little room for us to pursue and nurture what we want. Maybe the dreams go quiet but they have not been lost at sea.

We can take our dreams back any time by closing our eyes and picturing what we desire. In our day dreams, we connect to our possibilities and make them our reality. In our mind’s eye, we feel what we can be, what we can achieve. The sea doesn’t wash away our wishes; we can see and experience what it’s like to live our dreams by closing our eyes. Dreaming during caregiving isn’t selfish; it’s life-giving. When so much seems to take from you, you can give to yourself through your dreams.

Your dreams aren’t lost. Your dreams understand the pressing needs of your life. While they wait for you, they would love regular visits from you. Close your eyes and dream. Your dreams are important and powerful. Your dreams guide you to what can be next. Dream and belief. What we can achieve and create begins by believing as we dream.

About Denise

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched Caregiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.

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