We hear the word “transfer” regularly during our caregiving experience.

Our caree will be transferred — to home, from the hospital. We need to transfer our caree — to the commode, from the wheelchair.

Health care professionals say “transfer” so matter-of-factly. For us, a transfer is anything but. With every transfer we have to trust. For us, the transfer is about a change that’s often outside our control. The transfer to an assisted living facility, for instance, causes intense worries for us. Will the care be good? Will the staff be nice? Will my caree be happy? When we transfer our caree from bed to wheelchair, for instance, we carefully maneuver so we don’t harm our caree or ourselves.

The transfers often feel fraught with risk because we feel we must trust the process.

How do we transfer from risk to trust?

We can ask good questions, gather helpful information, request help, talk out the worries, create back-up plans for our back-up plans. We can decide that what we do today informs what we do tomorrow which gives us the flexibility to make different choices when a better choice arrives.

We take our work seriously. We can trust ourselves and our commitment to our responsibility. Because we are trust-worthy, we can start the transfer with that fact. From there, we can trust our wisdom, instincts and enormous knowledge base.

When we’re part of the process, we minimize the risk of the transfer. We can trust this.

About Denise

I began working with family caregivers in 1990 and launched Caregiving.com in 1996 to help and support them. Through my blog, I share words of comfort and offer coping strategies and tips. I also write opinion pieces about recent research, community programs and media coverage of caregiving issues. I've written several caregiving books, including "The Caregiving Years, Six Stages to a Meaningful Journey," "Take Comfort, Reflections of Hope for Caregivers" and "After Caregiving Ends, A Guide to Beginning Again." You can purchase my books and schedule a coaching call with me in our store.


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Beautifully written. Thanks.


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