Posts by Lillie

Good Grief

Almost three years ago, on September 5, 2015, my brother was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer.  At that time I was caring for my mom and had been for the last 17 years.  My brother was treated aggressively for his cancer, he had a colostomy and received chemo for almost a year.  He traveled…

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A Day In The Life Of A Former Family Caregiver

My mom has been gone now for almost 4 months.  I had always said that my Caregiving Days would be over when my mom died, that I wouldn’t ever be able to care for anyone else.  Three weeks after her death I started working at a job that I absolutely love. On a normal day…

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The End

It has really been a crazy couple of months.  I’m still not sure how to deal with everything.  I’m really trying to do the best I can and so far all seems right in the world. In July my mom had a two-day hospital stay.  She had an “episode” we thought was a stroke but…

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Twenty Years

Almost 20 years ago I took my two little boys, age 2 and 6, and I left a very unhealthy relationship filled with anger and abuse. I moved home to my parents’ house to find myself and to have a safe place for my boys and I to live.   In these 20 years I…

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Ding Dong

After my mom’s last decline, one week hospital stay and two week rehab stay, I had to figure out a way for her to let me know she needed me because I could not be by her side at all times or I would get less done than I normally do.   A friend of…

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Meanwhile, Back at the Ranch…

While I was away at the National Caregiving Conference I left my mom in the care of my 26-year=old son. We all live together so it wasn’t a big deal, all he had to do that he usually doesn’t was to make sure she ate and took her meds. Well, I didn’t think it was…

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Warm, Fuzzy #NCC16

So….. I really want to tell you about my experience at the National Caregiving Conference, better known as #ncc16! I hope I can remember all the beautiful moments I experienced. The best thing for me to do, I guess, is start from that beginning, and that beginning was about July of 2016 when some of…

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This is My Story and I’m Sticking to It!

My caregiving story actually started six years before I was born! When my parents were married, not only did my mom gain a husband and a and a 6-year-old stepdaughter, she also became an instant caregiver to my dad’s mother who was what we always called “invalid” (a person disabled by an illness or injury).…

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Where Did the Time Go?

I’ve been convinced that this July will be 18 years since I moved home, due to divorce and to care for my parents. Actually July will be 19 years!  It’s crazy! When I first came home, like I said, it was because my ex and I split up. My dad had already been diagnosed with Parkinson’s…

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Round 2

Last month on my mom’s birthday, November 29th, my sister came and transported Mom and I to see my brother who lives about 40 minutes away. When my sister got here, my mom’s wheelchair wouldn’t fit in her trunk because she drives a hybrid. We made due with taking the walker, which barely fit. I…

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It’s Been Forever

I haven’t blogged in a while.  I don’t know why. Everything is as well as it can be. My mom is doing well, just celebrated her 89th Birthday with a card party, many of you sent cards and I thank you all so very much. All my mom wanted for her birthday was to go…

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And It Was a Very Good Day!!!

Mom and I were both on the stressed side about going to visit my brother today. According to my sister he had a crappy weekend. Last week they had taken that NG tube out of his nose, which we figured was a move in the right direction. Well I guess it wasn’t. All the gastric…

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What Next?

I took my mom twice last week to visit my brother. My son left his car for me to travel in because my car doesn’t have air conditioning and it was in the triple digits last week. We went first on Tuesday and when we got in the room my brother blurted out, “Well, Mom,…

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I Hate Bad News, Part 2

Yesterday when my sister left after seeing my brother at the hospital she came by here to see my mom. We made small talk, she never said anything about my brother. When my mom got up to go in the bathroom my sister told me that my brother has a mass, they did a colostomy…

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