To understand is to forgive, even oneself. Alexander Chase The road to Spokane is in its final stages as there are only two chapters left to write for my thesis “Caregiving, Stress and its Impact in the Work Place.” I owe a big thanks to Denise and all the members at Caregiving.com for helping us gather…

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Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. Aristotle We are taking a break from the thesis project today to remember a significant day in our life. For as long as I live, I know March 9th is going to come around every year. Significant in the sense that I will always remember March…

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We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future. ~ George Bernard Shaw The road to Spokane heading toward graduation has gotten a little bumpy (no, I did not get a virtual ticket) the last couple of nights. Thankfully, I was able to submit chapter 3…

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We do not remember days, we remember moments. ~ Cesare Pavese One of the great aspects of being on the road to Spokane is the anticipation of where the journey will lead me. Sure, the end of the journey is graduation but what about the road leading up to graduation? And more importantly, what will…

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What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us. ~ Helen Keller Now that I am on the road to Spokane, I have quite a bit of stories to share. During our caregiving journey I found it was not only important to share our story…

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The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Lao Tzu I’m not sure there is a moving company one can call when you are preparing to move to acceptance. Moving to acceptance is one of those moves that you have to do on your own. Sure, it is important to receive some help…

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Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.  ~ Martin Luther King, Jr. Relief, Sadness, Guilt, and Joy all rolled up into on simple statement. Yet how do four very different words have meaning  to us when caregiving ends? I believe that these four words are the first emotions that…

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The quality of a leader is reflected in the standards they set for themselves. ~ Ray Kroc One of the most important components to being a healthy family caregiver is to know your strengths and weaknesses, while realizing that asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. I am learning that…

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Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant. ~ Robert Louis Stevenson I have never considered myself to have a green thumb and until recently, quite frankly, always found gardening a little boring. (Well, not as boring as fishing, but that is for another conversation!) However, over…

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Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn. ~ C. S. Lewis. Coupled with the fact that I’ve missed my extended family at Caregiving.com, finding the energy to blog on has been difficult for me these past few months. Let’s face it, grieving can be a full-time ‘job’ which takes quite…

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Love is the beauty of the soul. ~ Saint Augustine Bernard Richard Schiffer: January 24, 1931 ~ March 9, 2014 The house is quiet, so different, so empty. The beautiful aroma of the stargazer lilies fills the house, as one by one, they bloom in their mystical way. Just as the lilies transition from a small bud…

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I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love ~ Mother Teresa With TLO’s recent diagnosis that his cancer has spread to multiple parts of his body,  I have to admit this news, along with intense caregiving over the past month, has put me in a position where…

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If you are out to describe the truth, leave elegance to the tailor. ~ Albert Einstein The pain has been severe; the long sleepless hours have been agony. But now we know the truth behind the pain, we know the truth that is causing those sleepless days. More Cancer. More Radiation. When the MRI results came in on Thursday,…

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You can never plan the future by the past. ~ Edmund Burke How many of you liked to play with a yo-yo when you were a kid? I would guess that just about everyone has taken their turn, spinning their yo-yo up and down, controlling the string, holding steady, flipping the device backward to impress.…

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