82: Who Would Have Known?

Chris

82: Who Would Have Known?

Chris
Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. ~ Aristotle

026Today, 'The Little One' turns 82! It is a feat to recognize considering we are now 16 months past the oncologist's original  estimation of 3-4 months to live after the completion of his radiation and chemotherapy treatments in October of 2011.      We all know that Cancer is an insidious disease, unpredictable and unkind to many.  While we feel blessed to have the extended time together,  we are cognizant of all  cancer victims and their families today.

We learned from our oncologist prediction in October of 2011 that there is really no one who can tell us how this ordeal was going to play out.  There are no timetables in life:  what is here today, is gone tomorrow.  Knowing full well that I am not the one with cancer, I had to learn my supporting role as the caregiver as time played out.  Remembering 'TLO' determination and commitment to 'fight this as best I can' still rings in my ears from October 2011.  His determination is still prevalent today!

I have never liked phrase 'terminal illness.' Some people view life as a terminal illness.  Yikes, how sad that is!   The TLO and I have both buried our previous partners, in one sense that is what drew us together. Our previous caregiving experiences give us the foresight to know that we really don't know what is going to happen. The best we can do is be present in the day. That is why is it our hope that lets us withstand problems, and it is our dreams that lets us find solutions.  

WorryWe celebrate birthdays as milestones, and today is a special milestone for 'TLO.' Happy Birthday to my best friend, pal and partner. May your hills always have a gentle wind at your back.

We Might Have Cancer...


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...But Cancer Does Not Have US!


 

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Chris

Hi, John...\n\nThat is very kind of you and yes, please do send my email address to your publicist. Chris@thepurplejacket.com \nI appreciate your kind words about my writing. I try to write in a conversational style, and I have a couple of projects in the works. It would be great to get your feedback on my projects if you have the time. \nKeep in touch!\nAll my best...\n...Chris

Chris

Greetings, John...\n\nThanks for your response and kind words: Sometimes laughing is simply the best medicine around. We try to inject as much laughter into our day as possible. I would love to read you book. Can you send me some information on it? \nAs caregivers, we are all connected. While our situations might be different, we are all joined together in one way or another. \nLooking forward to more visits with you!\nKind Regards,\nChris\nChris@thepurplejacket.com

Denise

Happy Belated Birthday to TLO. I hope all his dreams come true. :)

Chris

Thanks for your kind words Janis...I tend to worry to much myself, it is always difficult but good to find a way to let go. \nTake Care...Chris

Chris

Hi, Sunshine...Let me see if I can help clarify for you. Richard knew that he had cancer and knew that it was serious. During our conversations leading up to doctors 'prediction' Richard was well aware that 'this is what is probably going to take me.' When I asked the doctor privately about a time frame, it was clear from his answer that he just really did not know. \nWhen I made the decisions not to say anything about the prediction, I knew that I was going to have to monitor the next few weeks to see how he would do after the radiation and chemo. After three weeks, it was apparent that he was regaining strength, eating and feeling well. Sure there were some bad days, (as there are now) but there was never any serious symptoms that would be alarming. \nPersonally, I just don't believe in time tables, if we are waiting to do something, then why wait...we should just do it now. I hope this helps... :) Hugs back at you!

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