A Caregiving Comfort: Reject

Denise

A Caregiving Comfort: Reject

Denise
A caregiving experience can feel worse than a dating experience. The rejection can feel relentless.

You ask your sister for help.

Rejected.

You ask your boss for a deadline extension.

Rejected.

You ask the bank to waive the overdraft fee.

Rejected.

You ask your caree to forgo the loud T.V., just for tonight, so you can read your book.

Rejected.

You can begin to think it's you, that you don't deserve help or support or accommodations.

I reject that assumption.

It is exhausting and frustrating to stand up for yourself, to fight for what you need, to almost beg for a break.

So, here's what you can reject.

You can reject the idea that you deserve a hard life. Life may be hard right now but you deserve, and will receive, better. Believe it.

You can reject the thought that others must always come before you. Sometimes, the pressing need of an illness or disease comes first. And, sometimes, you do. Allow both.

You can reject the belief that you have to do without it. You can compromise without sacrificing it all. As a priest once told me, God wants you to be happy. You have happiness when you keep what's important to you and for you. Keep it without guilt or the need for approval. Simply, keep it with gratitude.

You can reject the notion that life has passed you by. While life certainly has taken a detour, it still holds promise and potential and possibilities for you.

You, after all, are a great catch.