A Sibling Blessing: She Makes Me Look Good

Denise

A Sibling Blessing: She Makes Me Look Good

Denise
puzzle-75659_640My parents have put action behind their decisions. Their house went on the market in mid-May. They move from the retirement community to their own apartment on June 10.

My parents and I continue our parallel paths. As they plan for their future, I work on mine, focusing on my work and my loose ends. I'm taking advantage of the ease of their lives in the retirement community because I know life will become more complicated for all of us once they move.

With the knowledge that I will need to do more later, I've been doing less now. And, I have to admit, I'm feeling a bit guilty that I've shifted priorities so that my parents are not the first priority.

The guilt eased on Monday, though.

My younger sister, her husband and I spent a few hours on Monday (Memorial Day) helping my parents clean out some closets in the house. As my sister and I chatted with my mom, my mom updated us on Sibling, my oldest sibling who no longer helps even though she lives five minutes from their apartment and five minutes from their house. My mom still calls to ask Sibling for help, much to the confusion of my younger sister and I. Recently, my mom called and asked Sibling to help her for a few hours clearing out a closet in the house. Sibling refused. My mom then offered her a carpet cleaner, which they no longer need. "I don't want it because I don't have time for that," Sibling replied.

Ah, the unexpected blessing of a sibling who won't help. Maybe I'm not helping as much as I did a few months ago but I still help. I'm not feeling so guilty about the quantity of my help any more.

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