After Caregiving


After Caregiving

tulip-341677_640Taking one day at a time for grieving my mother-in-law. The funeral was beautiful on Sunday. Too bad some family members did not shed a tear or showed they cared. They only care about material things. They did not leave any flowers. They took them all. They didn’t even leave any at the crypt. We will buy silk flowers and place them there.

After caregiving, I will be doing my online college homework as I usually do. I will help with housework, yardwork, and whatever needs to be done.

I take a nap nearly every day. I get so sleepy. I guess it's what is called emotional tiredness. I miss taking care of someone. I will be taking care of myself, my husband and his dad. It's not the same as taking care of my mother-In-law. She will be missed.

My husband will be going to the doctor today for his regular visit. I want to talk to the doctor for myself as well. I am hoping he'll refer me. I know I have depression from grieving and all. We'll see what happens from here.

Thanks for the support I get from all of you.

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Hi I am Wanda and I am 51 years old. I took care of my mother for 10 years because she had COPD and Asthma. My father was very verbally and emotionally abusive with both of us. After she died in 2010 I was thinking of going to college to get a degree in Medical coding and get my life back on track and also wanted to learn to drive. My father kept telling me that I was too old to want to get a job or learn to drive and I should just stay home and take care of him. My father is 82 years old now. Do you think I am too old to get a job or learn to drive? I would really like all of your opinions.


I hope you will attend some of the aftergiving chats and continue to share things about your mother-in-law. She sounds like a very special woman. \r\n\r\nWhen my father passed, a young woman who had never met him invited me to coffee and said, \"Tell me all about him. Take all the time you need.\" It was one of the most comforting things anyone could have said.\r\n\r\nAnd so I say the same to you -- this is a place to tell us all about her, and to take all the time you need.


So sorry for your loss. People can be insensitive at times but don't worry about them. You know what you had with your mother-in-law and who did what, they really and truly don't matter. Don't waste time and energy on even thinking about them. Sha had you and the others who cared, you guys are the ones who matter. They do not even deserve your thoughts.


Hi JoAnn--Missing your mother-in-law and missing providing care is such a double whammy. And, it's so odd that it's all over in a minute.\r\n\r\nWhat was your favorite part of the funeral?