Tell Us: Are You Living "Option B"?


Tell Us: Are You Living "Option B"?

Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, recently released a book co-written with Adam Grant, a professor at the University of Pennsylvania, called Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy. Sheryl wrote the book because of the sudden death of her husband at the age of 47 in 2015.

In essence the book's premise is that when we can't have the life we want (Option A), we do our best with Option B.

I wonder: Do you feel you are living Option B? What's your reaction to the idea of an Option B? What's it like to release Option A? How does the perspective of an Option B sound to you? How realistic is this? Share your thoughts and experiences in our comments section, below.

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I do feel as though I am living Option B. This life is nothing like I expected or planned for. My husband died suddenly in an accident at the age of 36 (I was 34) that was over twenty years ago. We were only married for 6 months at the time of his death although we had been together for nearly 15 years when we married. As a result I have no children - it was doubtful that I would be able to have them but with his sudden and early departure there was no way to explore any options. I live in a small city and haven't found anyone with whom I have connected since so I don't date any longer. Heck, even eHarmony couldn't find me anyone within an hour's driving distance!\r\n\r\nNow, twenty plus years later I am caring for my mother who has PPA. Since she moved in last week I have come to the realization that I can't travel the world - as I was doing every couple of years. My social life with friends has fallen away over the last year as Mom's needs have increased (and I was briefly un-then-under-employed) and now that she is living with me I expect the isolation to increase. As an only child I am used to being on my own to a point. The weekly gathering after work with friends on Fridays though is now a rarity. \r\n\r\nSo yes, most certainly Option B; perhaps even Option D


Looking at \"Option A\" as being the life we were living before symptoms and diagnosis interrupted it. Gives having an \"Option B\" some merit. We had everything going for us during \"Option A\". We were living a comfortable life, had jobs in helping professions, a modest but reliable income, dreams and plans for retirement and our \"golden years\" together. I honestly don't know if an \"Option B\" would have helped us much. The emotions we had around the shock of suddenly loosing Option A , our grief, the pain, anger & longing for what cant be anymore , ... those were feelings we needed to go through & process in order to arrive at acceptance. Experiencing those feelings led to opportunities \r\nin finding pleasure and joy on a new path together.\r\nRegardless of the \"Option A\"/ \"Option B\" concept, we rely on our spiritual life to be our guide for living. Our spiritual life continues to be our ultimate source for whatever we have faced, after Option A could no longer be.