Birthday Celebration: Forgive

Denise

Birthday Celebration: Forgive

Denise
hyacinth-747157_640Every day this week, we’re celebrating Caregiving.com’s 19th birthday with activities and prizes.

Today, we’re breaking to disrupt our life with forgiveness.

I think we all carry a regret or a shame. Maybe it’s not something we think about every day or every week, but once in awhile, the memory comes up. And, we can feel that memory begin to control who we are. The memory haunts, belittles, controls. It’s awful.

So, today, let’s forgive ourselves for what we we wish we would have done differently or better or not at all. Let’s disrupt our lives by being to kind to ourselves, by realizing we’re doing the best we can and by letting a second chance, rather than a past regret, rule our day.

Here’s mine: I forgive myself for sometimes coming up short because I'm just trying to do too much.

Share your forgiveness in our comments section, below. I’ll choose a random winner to receive a $10 Amazon.com gift card. When you post a comment today, you’ll also be entered to win our grand prize of $100 cash.

Today, let’s forgive.

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Denise

Congrats to <a href='http://www.caregiving.com/members/moviegoer/' rel=\"nofollow\">@moviegoer</a> who won the $10 Amazon.com gift card!

MovieGoer

Whoa! You stopped me in my tracks with this one, Denise! I was getting ready for what I usually hear from people when I hear the word, \"forgive\" -- an invitation to forgive someone else. While there's nothing wrong with such an invitation (or exhortation, depending on the speaker), I have become weary of hearing so many people glibly refer to \"forgiveness of others\" as imperative. (Please note that I am NOT referring to you, or anyone on this site. I'm talking about in general, out in my \"real world\" experiences.)\n\nWhat a joy to think about forgiving myself for once. (I even SIGHED in huge relaxation just now as i typed that sentence.)\n\nToday I forgive myself for causing my dad to have some negative feelings and misunderstanding as I've recently set better boundaries with him for my own emotional and physical health. I wish I were able to do it differently, in a way that he would understand and accept. But as much as we adore each other, I cannot make that happen. So I forgive myself for what my action has caused him to feel. I cannot fix that.

Jean

Maybe it's my Midwest, farmer upbringing, but I constantly feel guilty when I don't accomplish enough in a day. Lately I seem to be having a hard time with decisions about how to proceed on a project. Since I can't figure it out, I retreated to the couch/tv. I need to forgive myself and recognize that maybe I have some grief going and that maybe I just have to let it goe for a bit. The energy and brain will return...

Goldie

Hussy, I'm with you on this one. I've been frustrated with myself for not being organized and not getting all their prescriptions figured out right away - as well as procrastinating on finding a new dentist for Mom. Gotta forgive myself for not getting everything done when I'm supposed to have it done.

Hussy

Perfect timing on this one. I couldn't find some paperwork I was looking for this morning and I was so angry with myself for not doing a better job of organizing my files. I'm going to forgive myself for not doing a better job and try to do a better job going forward.