Can You Relate?

Lark

Can You Relate?

Lark
I have arrived. I have become the warden of my poor husband's prison. According to him, I love being in emergency rooms, hospitals, and nursing homes. I love calling the rescue squad and sending them off with him in the back headed for the emergency room. To his way of thinking I am intent on making his life miserable. Well, what he means to say is that I am intent on making his life miserable unless I am doing something he asked me to do for him. For a brief period of time, I am his loving wife and such a fine woman. If I am going to visit a girlfriend while the aide is here with him I am always gone for long hours at a time and he is left alone without anyone to help him.

The day continues with meals he wants but doesn't want so why don't I decide but I should decide what he is thinking and not what I think he is thinking. Can you relate?

I am too slow. I am too fast. What day is it?  He can think for himself and does not need me to be his caregiver. Will I get him something to drink and where are the TV controls? What time is supper? I am not hungry yet. I will eat later. Later is 3 a.m. and he tells me I am unreasonable for saying we are going to have rules on when later is and it won't be at 3 a.m. He puffs up and tells me he will do what he wants to do because he has done what he wants to do all his life. Moments later he asks me to help him to bed, cover him, turn the fan just so and turn out the light.  He asks if I am mad at him and tells me I need to get some rest because I seem cranky. Can you relate?

I reread this and made the decision to send it although I find it difficult to read in places. I hope any readers can make some sense out of it.

 

 

 

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Michelle

I can relate. Wow can I ever relate. Thanks for writing and reminding me that I am not alone dealing with this FTD behavior. As I often tell people who don't know. \" I don't mean flowers,\" LOL