Caregiving and Those Silly Hats


Caregiving and Those Silly Hats

the-mad-hattersI will be the first to admit that I have hit a dry spell recently in my writing. When chatting with other bloggers about this, I have learned that hitting a dry spell, or ‘The Wall’ as it has been described to me, is not uncommon. When you are a working family caregiver, there is often this tug of war between what you want to do versus what you have time to do, coupled with the fact of what you have to do. No matter what role you might have in life, finding that balance is always a challenge.

A great example of finding that balance in life happened this past weekend at a fundraising event for work. While I always like to include ‘The Little One’ in on as many events that he feels up to attend, this past weekend I was quite surprised when we both went ‘all in’ at SunServe’s Garden and Hat party. Creating crazy looking bonnets is not something that we do on a regular basis, yet we had a great time together shopping, creating and wearing ‘those’ hats on Sunday.

While we did not win the crazy hat contest, the weekend event reminded me that bonding over something that is fun is essential for both of us.  If you’re a caregiver like me, I am sure you get caught up in the daily routine of making sure everything is prefect for your caree.

The past few months, ‘The Little One’ has been blessed with more good days than bad, for which we are both grateful. Yet to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver,’ it is essential to find those times when we can take our mind off of things that we cannot control (cancer) and have fun with something that we can control (crazy hats). Letting go of control can be hard, yet in those bonding moments, there is a sense of freedom that for a moment helps take all our worries away. Come to think about it: Having one less worry  in our day helps us us find that elusive balance in our lives that we so constantly strive to achieve.

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Chris MacLellan

Thanks Don!

Chris MacLellan

Denise...I had not thought of that analogy until I read your comments_mysql. As caregivers, we are always wearing different hats, I prefer to wear the hat signified as FUN! Thanks for pointing that out for me!

Chris MacLellan

Hi, Trish...I will have to post the winning hats, they were off the charts! \r\nI regret not being prepared for writing something for the Love book...I am looking forward to reading it. I am doing to start writing about Fr. Orlando on AfterGiving, and like you, I am looking forward to getting back to writing as it is 'for my sanity!' Thanks for you, too!\r\nChris


Hi--I love the reminder to take off a caregiving hat and wear one that gives permission to simply have fun. And, I can tell you did just that. :)


Hi, Chris -- I love your bonding/fun/balance connection! Being silly is a great stress reliever, and being silly for a great cause is icing on the cake -- er, bonnet! :D\r\n\r\nAnd I have to say, you and TLO have done the Hat Sisters proud!\r\n\r\n\r\nHaving lived in the Boston area for 20 years, I saw these guys at various fundraising events. :-)