Caregiving Psychic Powers and Grief. Halloween at Shady Pines.

MissAngie

Caregiving Psychic Powers and Grief. Halloween at Shady Pines.

MissAngie
cgbug_Halloween_Haunted_HouseI haven't been on the site in a while.Things have been busy at my house also known as "Shady Pines dementia care and misfit dog rescue." Our new slogan is, "We leave the light on for you to prevent sun-downing and pet separation anxiety."

Some life events zapped my energy as well as my blogging time. Surprisingly my mom who I have cared for since I was 30 hasn't been the problem.The death of a close cousin who was lost to cancer has been a bit much to deal with.

I had retired my mom taxi but now that my daughter has a job and works late. I pick her up after her night shift. She is saving for a car and I don't really want her driving mine. My daughter was born on the same day as my favorite cousin but 30 years later. My cousin Ron was the life of the party, a world traveler, celebrity photographer and more like a big brother to me. I last saw him a month ago when he dropped by on his way to a blues concert. I think he knew then that he had cancer but he didn't mention anything to me about it. He was also at every summer event I had and he loved my mom. His mom and my mom are sisters. It's funny; my daughter said when he left that he seemed to regret that he never married or had kids by the way he was watching one of our friend's baby.I didn't notice it but she did.

A week later my sister calls and said my cousin went on a last minute cruise and when he got back he felt weak and went to emergency. He told her he had cancer and had refused the chemo. Within two weeks he had passed. The only reassuring thing to me and why some people are afraid of me being so intuitive is a little voice in my head said someone in the family is going to have a baby and heaven exchanges lives that way. The night before he passed I thought that but I didn't want to scare anyone. (There's a Halloween scare caregiving story.) Go me it's a gift from God and it's just a weird gift I have. It happens a lot and sometimes it is scary. My daughter out of the blue that night mentioned a niece of mine who was told that she could never have kids. She was saying how she was such a nice person and wondered why she and her husband couldn't conceive.

Next morning my sister-in-law calls and says her daughter is finally pregnant. I was both happy and sad and realized that's who is taking my cousin's place. My hubby was freaked out and I think that's why he slept on the couch a few days. It could be a coincidence who knows. I wish I knew winning lottery numbers or useful things like that.

I really wish cancer research was further along. I was angry because my cousin refused chemo but his mom suffered during her chemo and I'm sure that had an impact on his decision. I feel for anyone in that situation.

Well I will be back on here more often. Have a safe Halloween. Mom likes to give out candy. Last year she went to bed early and took the bowl of candy with her. I couldn't find it for a few days but I kept seeing empty wrappers. We shall see what happens this time.

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